Criticism of Broad Autism Phenotype

I struggled most of my life, as a teenager I was suicidal be suse of feeling inferior to others and not having friends. I think that I missed the diagnosis at that time because of neglect by my parents. Now I heard that in fact I fit the criteria, dx wouldn’t have helped me. It’s ok, I help myself without dx, by being here for example. My problems changed, now the biggest issue are sensory sensitivities, while lack of friends is not so painful because my situation and priorities have changed. However the trauma from my childhood, the bullying, the depression in that period that was supposed to be the most beautiful, has its impact on me even now. I’m not sure if having the dx back then would have helped me. Recently I started a therapy. My mom is angry that I did it, she said, be careful, don’t let them diagnose you with anything! I honestly regret telling her. I’m 36 and still feel kinda not fully grown up, I still feel like a child lost in a fog especially when being around people and their complicated interactions. For someone I could be autistic enough, for someone else, just a little bit, but not enough. Is it defined precisely how much one has to suffer from being different to be included? What about those who are not included anywhere because they are not enough anywhere? When I had my several hours long examination by a team of neurologists, the result was I don’t have Tourette (previously diagnosed) they only said that I’m just very sensitive to sensory input. And that’s it. No one wanted to look for other reasons why I have tics occasionally and why I stim. It took me years to figure it out by myself - why and solution- minimising sensory input. I think it should be the professionals job to do. 

I struggled most of my life, as a teenager I was suicidal be suse of feeling inferior to others and not having friends. I think that I missed the diagnosis at that time because of neglect by my parents. Now I heard that in fact I fit the criteria, dx wouldn’t have helped me. It’s ok, I help myself without dx, by being here for example. My problems changed, now the biggest issue are sensory sensitivities, while lack of friends is not so painful because my situation and priorities have changed. However the trauma from my childhood, the bullying, the depression in that period that was supposed to be the most beautiful, has its impact on me even now. I’m not sure if having the dx back then would have helped me. Recently I started a therapy. My mom is angry that I did it, she said, be careful, don’t let them diagnose you with anything! I honestly regret telling her. I’m 36 and still feel kinda not fully grown up, I still feel like a child lost in a fog especially when being around people and their complicated interactions. For someone I could be autistic enough, for someone else, just a little bit, but not enough. Is it defined precisely how much one has to suffer from being different to be included? What about those who are not included anywhere because they are not enough anywhere? When I had my several hours long examination by a team of neurologists, the result was I don’t have Tourette (previously diagnosed) they only said that I’m just very sensitive to sensory input. And that’s it. No one wanted to look for other reasons why I have tics occasionally and why I stim. It took me years to figure it out by myself - why and solution- minimising sensory input. I think it should be the professionals job to do.