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The not knowing

Rach91

Hay not sure if it’s just me or an autistic trait but I really hate the not knowing it makes me really anxious and ill. Tomorrow I’m supposed to be meeting my friend we supposed to be going to do circus skills in the morning and then back to mine for the rest of the day I’m supposed to be making broth in the slow cooker and I’ve bought the ingredients. My friend car has broken down he had to call for help and I don’t know what’s going on if they can fix it or if they can provide him with a curtesy car or anything. I have tried calling him and he either rejects the call or doesn’t answer the last message he sent me was he trying to get his car sorted. I really hate the not knowing my anxiety is through the roof because I want to know is tomorrow on so I can freeze my ingredients if it has to be postponed. Does anyone else get anxious when they don’t know what’s what? 

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  • Maybe a good solution (I think already mentioned here) is having a plan B. 
    in my case I was always anxious about not having enough topics to talk about with the person I was going to see, or not having any topic at all. I felt like I had to plan in my head what we would talk about, how I should start the conversation etc. I hardly ever plan anything, usually it’s someone planning things like holidays for example. Since long time I didn’t meet anyone outside my family, so I almost forgot the anxiety and planning the conversation in my head. 
    for me transition is always an issue- if I’m with someone (sisters for example) and they plan doing something, then they wanna go somewhere, it’s always very unpleasant when I have to leave the car, ho into someone’s house etc and especially if I don’t know how long we would stay there. 

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  • Maybe a good solution (I think already mentioned here) is having a plan B. 
    in my case I was always anxious about not having enough topics to talk about with the person I was going to see, or not having any topic at all. I felt like I had to plan in my head what we would talk about, how I should start the conversation etc. I hardly ever plan anything, usually it’s someone planning things like holidays for example. Since long time I didn’t meet anyone outside my family, so I almost forgot the anxiety and planning the conversation in my head. 
    for me transition is always an issue- if I’m with someone (sisters for example) and they plan doing something, then they wanna go somewhere, it’s always very unpleasant when I have to leave the car, ho into someone’s house etc and especially if I don’t know how long we would stay there. 

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