Which of your parents do you believe is/was/might be/could have been autistic?

Jury is out for me too - not sure if my "dad" was even my genetic parent, as my mother had continual affairs, and I don't think it's common for autistic people to repeatedly break their marriage vows?

I think that maybe my mother's sister was on the spectrum. I stayed with her in the summer holidays a couple of times and looking back now at her behaviour I can see a lot of anxiety.

Lotus said:

my mother had continual affairs,

Ditto.

Hi Debbie, I "upvoted" your comment because I empathise with you, not because I like it that your mother had affairs too.

Lotus said:

But after I got married and moved out, I started to realise how manipulative they had both been.

Once in my 30s I was standing in the kitchen doorway and my mum was in the kitchen with my dad, having a go at him and 'being upset'.

She happened to turn around then to face the other side of the kitchen.

She didn't know I was watching but I saw her smile.

It was a mega lightbulb moment for me.

My mum's death was the release for me, truth to tell.

Lotus said:

Sorry that you also suffered because of a parent's behaviour Debbie

Thank you.

Lotus said:

But after I got married and moved out, I started to realise how manipulative they had both been.

Once in my 30s I was standing in the kitchen doorway and my mum was in the kitchen with my dad, having a go at him and 'being upset'.

She happened to turn around then to face the other side of the kitchen.

She didn't know I was watching but I saw her smile.

It was a mega lightbulb moment for me.

My mum's death was the release for me, truth to tell.

Lotus said:

Sorry that you also suffered because of a parent's behaviour Debbie

Thank you.