Autistic parent challenges

Hello Holly

Being a parent to a neurodivergent child is a challenge anyway but you are doing this alone. I just want to say you’re doing a fantastic job and asking that question shows you care about doing the best for your child. I struggle sometimes with my own child and although I’m not single I would say most of childcare duties fall on me. 
The only thing I can really say is write in a diary and experiment with mindful ways to help, hopefully you may start to see a pattern and either recognise the triggers or at least find some distraction techniques. 

As Cloud said these should perhaps be treated as a meltdown and in my short experience is best to let them get it out once it has started. 

Just wanted to say that I am also a parent so I understand where you're coming from. It does get easier as they get older, but I can imagine, as a single parent, it can be a challenge. I'm sure you're doing an amazing job, the tantrums shouldn't last forever, or be as intense. That said, my daughter still has them sometimes, but I tend to treat them as a meltdown, treat her as I would want to be treated. I let her have them, then wait for her come to talk to me if/when she is ready. Sometimes it just goes unsaid, she just wants to realise something, especially after a routine change at school. She hasn't been diagnosed as autistic but I suspect she is.

Dear HollyL,

Thank you for sharing this with our community. While we are waiting for the community to respond, you may want to take a look at our page about behaviour, https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour

Thank you, HollyL. I hope this helps.

With all good wishes,

Eunice Mod