I have a step son who I have known since 10 years of age whom lived with my partner and myself upto 4 years ago. He is now married and lives with his wife and they are aged 28. The step son is verbally abusive toward me and has always abused me. My partner wants a relationship with her son and i can understand her need. But I recent helped him as I have always done obtain a family airlume and it was a wedding preset from my partner and myself. Once he had obtained the item I asked him a reasonable request. My request was to fetch an an old antique car we had given him for his 21 st birthday. It's been stored in my barn and I had asked him over a year ago to remove it. He was quick to come and collect the airlume and take it home but the car he didn't want to take to his new home. I explained a year ago that it couldn't stay with us. He sent an extremely hurtful and abusive text to me. He called me lazy, said I have no friends, that I am pathetic, that I am controlling and petty. He was my best friend 2 weeks ago when I was obtaining the airlume from his late grandfather's estate ie negotiating the terms of sale so that his mother and I could gift it to him and his new wife. The point to the post is I am so sad, upset and angry that my time being a step father I have have drawn in by him when he needed something then abused by him when I nomlonger was useful. It's a distructive relationship but being autistic how do I navigate this it's just self destructive having him in my life but I love his mum very much.
