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How was everyone’s weekend?

Rach91

Hi so this weekend was a nice one on Saturday I had a nice day to myself and I spent the day in my pjs watched tv. On Sunday my friend came over for the day I gave my kitchen a good clean and we watched Netflix all afternoon. Then I made us a nice meal hotdog pasta bake and put a film on called 8 below. It was based on a true story about these scientists in Antarctica who had to leave their huskies behind and the owner was trying to get back to them and the dogs broke free and battled the icy weather in winter in Antarctica for almost 5 months. There were some teary moments between me and my friend. Then he went home in the evening then and I had an early night. Tomorrow now we both going to see the fireworks on bonfire night. So over to you guys how was your weekend and what are your plans tomorrow as it’s bonfire night. 

  • Hi Rach

    Sounds like a perfect weekend to me. I love to just chill, watch movies and have some nice comfort food. That is what I do every Friday which is my favourite day. 
    My Saturday is going to sound awful but I’m taking the positives from it.

    I had been overthinking a friend’s 40th party for around 7 months and the time arrived this Saturday just passed, I thought about what was making me so anxious and it was not having a back up plan. I had obviously prepared my conversation scripts, decided whom I thought might be there and how they might behave and decided who to avoid. I told my partner that I will be driving, she told me that I wasn’t, for the first time I stood my ground and said I drive or I don’t go. Having a backup just helped ease the stress of it all. I managed 8pm until 10pm with very loud music, lots of people behaving in unpredictable ways and a total sensory explosion. I was completely done. My youngest son FaceTimed me as he was anxious because he wanted me to come home, I went into the car park and sat in my car for a 30 minute chat to settle him. I then avoided going back in by driving to a Mc Donald’s to pass some time. I was outside in the car for over a hour and a half before forcing myself to go back in to let my partner know I was leaving. She wasn’t happy but was getting a taxi back with others. This all sounds traumatic and it was, especially feeling like I had spent too much time outside regulating and making it difficult to go back in. This however has been a huge victory for me, I have gone along with others for so long with no regard for myself it really felt like a turning point. I finally put a unspoken message across that there must be a compromise to situations I find challenging. 

    I really can’t remember ever feeling proud of myself and although I must have yawned with exhaustion for the whole of the following day I felt that I had finally been kinder to myself. 

    This I hope is the beginning of less masking and better management of situations I really find terrifying without internalising my fears and anxiety to please others.

    I learned a lot this weekend and have had 2 positive days since.