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Telling people or not...

firedragon

I am very recently diagnosed. My partner is the only one who knows I am diagnosed. I wondered what people's thoughts and experiences of telling others, especially work mates. 

When I get stressed or work changes unexpectedly I find my behaviour gets worse. I feel increasingly uncomfortable with people. Don't look at their eyes and my fear instincys kick in and I want to run. i also have the habit of saying what I feel with my normal filtering turned off. Not wise as you can imagine

 My boss knows I am not good with people as I told him so in a round about way and he is supportive so maybe he knows but would it be a huge error telling him? What about HR?

I know I can be rude and blunt when suffering and lots of emotions around me make it worse and if people knew it might make it better but do I just risk discrimination and hope they just see me as the quiet one? But then that can be career limiting too.

thanks for any advice

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  • millymolly said:

    When i was diagnosed the mental health team advised that i didnt tell people, i think that you need to weigh up the benefits and concerns with both telling or not, and good luck with whatever you decide

    Part of me thinks that given I have reached this stage of my life without a diagnosis that telling people won't help and in fact hinder. If I want to progress through the career ladder then having trouble talking to people won't help in the leadership aspects

    A main reason I pushed through a diagnosis was to look at getting external support and coping techniques. The mental health lady did say that it seems the anxiety issues in the past and the CBT to overcome ended up giving me techniques and that my choice of career may have been by me subconsciously seeking the place I fit in best.

    but I also know in the past I was made redundant due to my attitude. Couple newly diagnosed uncontrolled type 2 diabetes and autism and I can be rather difficult to deal with. ahem...

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  • millymolly said:

    When i was diagnosed the mental health team advised that i didnt tell people, i think that you need to weigh up the benefits and concerns with both telling or not, and good luck with whatever you decide

    Part of me thinks that given I have reached this stage of my life without a diagnosis that telling people won't help and in fact hinder. If I want to progress through the career ladder then having trouble talking to people won't help in the leadership aspects

    A main reason I pushed through a diagnosis was to look at getting external support and coping techniques. The mental health lady did say that it seems the anxiety issues in the past and the CBT to overcome ended up giving me techniques and that my choice of career may have been by me subconsciously seeking the place I fit in best.

    but I also know in the past I was made redundant due to my attitude. Couple newly diagnosed uncontrolled type 2 diabetes and autism and I can be rather difficult to deal with. ahem...

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