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Telling people or not...

firedragon

I am very recently diagnosed. My partner is the only one who knows I am diagnosed. I wondered what people's thoughts and experiences of telling others, especially work mates. 

When I get stressed or work changes unexpectedly I find my behaviour gets worse. I feel increasingly uncomfortable with people. Don't look at their eyes and my fear instincys kick in and I want to run. i also have the habit of saying what I feel with my normal filtering turned off. Not wise as you can imagine

 My boss knows I am not good with people as I told him so in a round about way and he is supportive so maybe he knows but would it be a huge error telling him? What about HR?

I know I can be rude and blunt when suffering and lots of emotions around me make it worse and if people knew it might make it better but do I just risk discrimination and hope they just see me as the quiet one? But then that can be career limiting too.

thanks for any advice

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  • I thank you for your comments.

    i don't know if it is confidence as if anything I think I constantly self criticise. But then I sometimes find I come across as arrogant. I don't mean to but it's like if people don't see things in the same way I do then it's like I dismiss them in my head and it's pretty obvious I don't tolerate them

     But all in all I do consider myself lucky in being outside looking in. It gives an interesting perspective. 

    if I did tell him and he is understanding then I think it would help with appraisals as the comments about not mixing and speaking to people enough hopefully will be seen in a different context

    I couldn't cope if everyone knew as I would think I was being talked about and that wouldn't help anxiety but I will gauge how it goes over time. 

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  • I thank you for your comments.

    i don't know if it is confidence as if anything I think I constantly self criticise. But then I sometimes find I come across as arrogant. I don't mean to but it's like if people don't see things in the same way I do then it's like I dismiss them in my head and it's pretty obvious I don't tolerate them

     But all in all I do consider myself lucky in being outside looking in. It gives an interesting perspective. 

    if I did tell him and he is understanding then I think it would help with appraisals as the comments about not mixing and speaking to people enough hopefully will be seen in a different context

    I couldn't cope if everyone knew as I would think I was being talked about and that wouldn't help anxiety but I will gauge how it goes over time. 

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