I have a mother in her 80's and a brother in his 40's, both clearly have Aspergers but neither have a diagnosis. I work a lot with people with AS and its crystal clear to me. We've just lost my father to cancer and I'm really struggling to cope with my own grief let alone helping two people who can't communicate how they're feeling with theirs. I have looked and looked for online forums and support groups for the relatives of aspergers but everything seems aimed at the parents of children with AS. I am angry, frustrated, upset and grief stricken and I know I shouldn't feel the way I do about my mother and brother as they can't help how they are about this. But why is there nothing out there for people in my position. I've been managing and parenting my brother for my mother since I was a toddler, though its only in more recent years I've understood why I had to and yet there's no support for me.
Even this website didn't give an option for relatives. I had to choose Living on the Spectrum (which I don't) rather than Living with it - which I certainly do.
If anyone knows any blogs, online forums/support groups etc that AREN'T for people with AS but ARE for those that live with them that would be great.