how people on the spectrum cope with being parents???

thanks all ! well, he does have strong believs and views on marriage, but he is not a violent man and is in no way threatening to me ( I would never have tolarated that in my home) ...yes, he is not able to understand what it feels like being in my allien skin and can be quite nasty  and upsetting with the choice of words ...he did suggest we should do councelling together , but I can't see any point in that because I wanted to leave him ever since we got married , except kids  we have no common ground for councelling to be of any use...  funnily enough, the psycologist I saw recently thinks I also might have personality disorder ( there's a case of schizophrenia in my family) and said exact same words my husband used -" when you're confused, you can't make decisions on your own, and need help with that"... so, I think I will go through the councelling I started  and wait till September( then both my kids will be at school/nursery)  and see if this will make any difference to how I feel ...

I think my eldest has some ASD traits, since she was 6-7 months old I wasn't able to walk into a room-full of people with her  ( like toddlers groups, it was a big effort for me too, but I was willing to make that effort)  - she was hysterical and wanted to leave, so I spent with her outside most of the time, just going for walks, she was never keen on playing; for 1.5 years every day she would insist on eating same porrige , gets upset if things change their positions, has very poor physical development ...but since she went to this small private nursery, it improoved a bit - she started talking at 3, started trying to run a bit and jump a couple of months ago , is  a bit more flexible with food now  and is happier with being among other kids, although is still unable to play with them, just does her own thing...

thanks all ! well, he does have strong believs and views on marriage, but he is not a violent man and is in no way threatening to me ( I would never have tolarated that in my home) ...yes, he is not able to understand what it feels like being in my allien skin and can be quite nasty  and upsetting with the choice of words ...he did suggest we should do councelling together , but I can't see any point in that because I wanted to leave him ever since we got married , except kids  we have no common ground for councelling to be of any use...  funnily enough, the psycologist I saw recently thinks I also might have personality disorder ( there's a case of schizophrenia in my family) and said exact same words my husband used -" when you're confused, you can't make decisions on your own, and need help with that"... so, I think I will go through the councelling I started  and wait till September( then both my kids will be at school/nursery)  and see if this will make any difference to how I feel ...

I think my eldest has some ASD traits, since she was 6-7 months old I wasn't able to walk into a room-full of people with her  ( like toddlers groups, it was a big effort for me too, but I was willing to make that effort)  - she was hysterical and wanted to leave, so I spent with her outside most of the time, just going for walks, she was never keen on playing; for 1.5 years every day she would insist on eating same porrige , gets upset if things change their positions, has very poor physical development ...but since she went to this small private nursery, it improoved a bit - she started talking at 3, started trying to run a bit and jump a couple of months ago , is  a bit more flexible with food now  and is happier with being among other kids, although is still unable to play with them, just does her own thing...