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how people on the spectrum cope with being parents???

Lipgloss

please, anyone, share your experiences!  I found  the whole marriage thing exhausting enough,  but since I had 2 kids - life became IMPOSSIBLE...  I never even wanted kids...and still don't... 

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  • It seems as though your husband's religion is making him battle away at trying to make it work, as he likely doesn't see divorce as a very Christian thing to do.  He may also have stereotypical views about the man being the head of the family and in charge in all aspects and the wife just having to "obey" him.

    Religion won't change the fact that you have Asperger's and no will any amount of counselling.  I wonder, whether your situation is exacerbated to the point of intolerability by the attitude your husband takes?  If you feel he is pressuring and forcing you, then you will be like a trapped rabbit and will likely catastrophise everything.  Perhaps your husband is the one who needs therapy to see the error of his ways.  It can't be only one party in a marriage trying to change to suit the other one, both parties need to try and to make allowances.  Being that you have a recognised disability and he doesn't, that means he needs to be the one making more allowances than you.

    Out of interest, do any of your children show signs of being on the autistic spectrum?

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  • It seems as though your husband's religion is making him battle away at trying to make it work, as he likely doesn't see divorce as a very Christian thing to do.  He may also have stereotypical views about the man being the head of the family and in charge in all aspects and the wife just having to "obey" him.

    Religion won't change the fact that you have Asperger's and no will any amount of counselling.  I wonder, whether your situation is exacerbated to the point of intolerability by the attitude your husband takes?  If you feel he is pressuring and forcing you, then you will be like a trapped rabbit and will likely catastrophise everything.  Perhaps your husband is the one who needs therapy to see the error of his ways.  It can't be only one party in a marriage trying to change to suit the other one, both parties need to try and to make allowances.  Being that you have a recognised disability and he doesn't, that means he needs to be the one making more allowances than you.

    Out of interest, do any of your children show signs of being on the autistic spectrum?

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