how people on the spectrum cope with being parents???

The more I read your posts the more I wonder if you are suffering from depression.  Have you seen a gp to discuss this.  Your husband also sounds  controlling.  My ex was extremely controlling, but at the time I had no idea, over the years I become more and more  isolated, he would tell me to go out to gym, ext but when I returned he would ask me endless questions about who  I spoke to, did I fancy them.  In the end I stopped going to gym because I thought he was jealous, but it was just his need to control me.

My only caveat with leaving is that you prepare yourself with  the  knowledge that if you leave, he may see you as someone he has no use for anymore, and he may turn vindictive.  This is not uncommon with people who lose their narcissistic supply.  Hopefully he won't.

The more I read your posts the more I wonder if you are suffering from depression.  Have you seen a gp to discuss this.  Your husband also sounds  controlling.  My ex was extremely controlling, but at the time I had no idea, over the years I become more and more  isolated, he would tell me to go out to gym, ext but when I returned he would ask me endless questions about who  I spoke to, did I fancy them.  In the end I stopped going to gym because I thought he was jealous, but it was just his need to control me.

My only caveat with leaving is that you prepare yourself with  the  knowledge that if you leave, he may see you as someone he has no use for anymore, and he may turn vindictive.  This is not uncommon with people who lose their narcissistic supply.  Hopefully he won't.