Published on 12, July, 2020
It seems impossible for me to trust women. This is not because of being jilted via having been cheated on, several broken relationships leaving me wonder what in the blue h*** I have done, standing on a train station platform, bewildered and consequently being depressed for months on end feeling unwanted, proceeding to then start losing weight again (I'm 18st, part belly, part muscle lol), fix myself up with new teeth and so on.It is more to do with the current political climate that I see all around me. Do I go up and talk to a woman and risk being jailed? Or do I smile from afar and risk being jailed? Or do I simply stay lonely? My mother was abusive, my late Grandmother, overprotective, social workers acting upon misandry and falsehoods, libel and the like since childhood.I would like a female companion long term some day, but I have already planned to grow old alone because that seems easier. However, since my diagnosis, I am open to perhaps asking for help before I am accused of misogyny again. I am not a misogynist, I just have trust issues since my recent break up and all I want, is a best friend forever, who will love me with all of my flaws, including my impressions, maybe play some Magic The Gathering of an evening, watch Jurassic Park, play some retro games, or just a simple snuggle up with some Rick & Morty and a Pizza now and again. Evening walks just as the sun is setting etc.Anyway, enough cringe from me. It would mean a lot to me if you ladies could help me change my perspective. I really do believe in love, accepting people for who they are, despite flaws, arguing then making up again with a cup of tea and perhaps a good laugh. I will embrace a female companion who is autistic as well as I think we may get on better together with our understanding, growing up and evolving our knowledge. You never know it could have a positive impact on the world.Someone to spend time with. As I said, enough cringe from me. Remember, female responses only. This is not a dating ad, more oversharing about my want to change and move on in life, with or without a best friend.Take care and thank you for taking the time to read this.
I am sorry that you feel like giving up on the site. As an older male, please let me give you some thoughts, if you are still here.
The person that you reacted to was actually trying to give you good advice. I think that you over reacted to it. Pouring your heart out or not, other people's opinions are valid.
It is unhealthy to think that a problem is due to the rest of the world, when you have the power to adapt and improve.
Almost every other person on this site has their own issues and problems. Things can be triggering for them, in the same way that you were triggered by the word "problematic". Relationships are only ever a two way street and you were asking for advice.
I hope that you will indulge some advice on why your post came across poorly.
Firstly, the title itself asking only women to reply. This comes across a bit predatorial.
Secondly, blaming the political climate belittles hard earned advances in society made for woman shows a lack of understanding on why certain behaviours are seen as creepy.
I won't go on, but there are some things that you could work on in order to achieve your goal.
I short, a question about relationships implies the needs of two people, not just one.
Good luck!
My title did not have that in mind. I was ONLY asking for women of my age or more to help me understand how they feel etc and to put any advice into practice, for the betterment of myself as I am sick to death of living in negativity and having this mindset.
Hi. I know that your title did not have that in mind. I tried to explain how it comes across. These are different things. You seemed to be asking advice on how you could improve your interactions with women, and I was trying to do just that.
There was an implication that a desire not to be approached is just down to politics and not due to a very real visceral fear. This idea was then subsequently doubled down on by you and other posters. When it has nothing to do with politics at all. Especially if there is the perception that if they said the wrong thing or disagreed with your worldview there would then be anger.
I wish you well.