Published on 12, July, 2020
It seems impossible for me to trust women. This is not because of being jilted via having been cheated on, several broken relationships leaving me wonder what in the blue h*** I have done, standing on a train station platform, bewildered and consequently being depressed for months on end feeling unwanted, proceeding to then start losing weight again (I'm 18st, part belly, part muscle lol), fix myself up with new teeth and so on.It is more to do with the current political climate that I see all around me. Do I go up and talk to a woman and risk being jailed? Or do I smile from afar and risk being jailed? Or do I simply stay lonely? My mother was abusive, my late Grandmother, overprotective, social workers acting upon misandry and falsehoods, libel and the like since childhood.I would like a female companion long term some day, but I have already planned to grow old alone because that seems easier. However, since my diagnosis, I am open to perhaps asking for help before I am accused of misogyny again. I am not a misogynist, I just have trust issues since my recent break up and all I want, is a best friend forever, who will love me with all of my flaws, including my impressions, maybe play some Magic The Gathering of an evening, watch Jurassic Park, play some retro games, or just a simple snuggle up with some Rick & Morty and a Pizza now and again. Evening walks just as the sun is setting etc.Anyway, enough cringe from me. It would mean a lot to me if you ladies could help me change my perspective. I really do believe in love, accepting people for who they are, despite flaws, arguing then making up again with a cup of tea and perhaps a good laugh. I will embrace a female companion who is autistic as well as I think we may get on better together with our understanding, growing up and evolving our knowledge. You never know it could have a positive impact on the world.Someone to spend time with. As I said, enough cringe from me. Remember, female responses only. This is not a dating ad, more oversharing about my want to change and move on in life, with or without a best friend.Take care and thank you for taking the time to read this.
It is more to do with the current political climate that I see all around me. Do I go up and talk to a woman and risk being jailed? Or do I smile from afar and risk being jailed?
Err what? You’ve said some problematic things which highlight your mindset towards women, one such example bolded above…I would work on the issues you have around women before trying to start a relationship.
I find your responce problematic. He exprese anxiaty arount NTs unfairly interpriting his aproches as harasment and you critisise his 'midset towards women' which sounds a lot like a euphamistic way of accusing him of being a mysogynist. Now was that really a reasonable conclusion to jump to based on what he said?
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Also, if my post was read as it is in it's rawest form, I think that the very thought of being so transparent frightens people. I did write that I would like to change my ways. That was a paraphrase for (before it's too late, please help me to become a better person). Well spotted Peter. I had to leave a fundamentalist cult because of my skewed views and depression, I gave up everything and joined the clown world for a bit, but even then, it was just another cult, but far worse, with the same structure of doctrine, worship this and don't do that etc and so on.I honestly give up. This is why I remain introverted. But, that would mean I am backing down from getting help, running away from the naked truth about myself. How is asking for help before it goes too far to change one's life and perception of things to something of positivity - hate? How is that hate?You hit the nail right on the head Peter. Thank you. P.S. 'Problematic' was a word used against me in my childhood by fundamentalist cult members who should have helped me to grow and understand the word, but rather ended up beating me, verbally abusing me and assuming I am a devil child. ***
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