Published on 12, July, 2020
I made 3 friends on here in the 2nd half of last year. I’ve not heard from any of them since April! And I’ve still not met any of them! I’ve invited all 3 of them to come and visit me, and every time I didn’t even get a reply.
Is there something about autism that makes people less likely to keep in touch with their friends or something? Other than anxiety about travelling (which wouldn’t affect e-mailing me) I’m not aware of anything.
And none of them have replied to my e-mail asking for contact details either so I don’t know any of their phone numbers, so I can’t contact them that way to ask what’s going on.
They all tell me (or did until April) that I’m lovely and wonderful and yet they’re all acting as if they don’t want to meet me. I don’t understand why!
They've all said they want to be friends with me. And it wouldn't be a friendship without spending time together in person would it? And I think all 3 of them (at least 2 of them anyway) have said they'd like to meet me. 1 of them is in hospital at the moment; I don't see how that stops her at least e-mailing me though.
Maybe trying to take things more slowly might help, but I've known them all for well over 6 months so I wouldn't have thought it would make much difference. It'll be the anniversary of when I first got in touch with the first one on August 20.
Mark said:And it wouldn't be a friendship without spending time together in person would it?
Yes, it would, but an online friendship.
Your own expectations/desires need to match those of the person you are friends with.
Mark (formerly Spikey) said:Hi Mark (other Mark here again), There is a tone of expectation here, which doesn't come across well.
I agree.
Hi Mark (other Mark here again), There is a tone of expectation here, which doesn't come across well. I think HMO and others are giving you good advice
Mark said:1 of them is in hospital at the moment; I don't see how that stops her at least e-mailing me though.
If you're talking about Goosey, she's told me at least that she's not been allowed her phone at times. Plus, she may just not have the capacity for it.