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Positives and negatives of Asperger's

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I am intrigued to know what people think. I bet we will disagree, but this is fine Smile If we all thought the same, discussion forums would be boring!

Anyway, the negatives for me are:

Inability to form meaningful friendships and relationships, despite having many acquaintances and potential social contacts

Inability to deal with choice, planning for the future, working out what is important in life and what I need to do to get there; a lack of direction

Inability to deal with unforeseen events and changes to my usual routine;  I require a lot of warning and mental preparation

Extreme anxiety and negative thinking, obsessions and fixations (the most disabling aspect of my condition)

Can't switch off my thoughts, or deal with too much stimuli, like noise, particularly when I am already stressed

All or nothing approach to things: I am either very interested in something or very bored and directionless

Social situations are tiring and unnatural; they always feel like I am acting a part, and they feel so fake and alienating. I always feel like I am hiding a dirty secret, and this causes social anxiety

Feeling alone in the world; problems with communicating my innermost thoughts

Endless procrastination; too much thinking and not enough doing

The positives, to me, are not to be found in the condition but in my own personality:

Endlessly curious and interested in things, so long as my anxiety is not taking over my thoughts

Motivated and keen to overcome my difficulties

A positive outlook; a belief that things can improve - where there is a will there is a way!

Conscientious

Will stick up for what I believe in

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  • Hello connor9o9s

    Sometimes people st school talk about kissing, girlfriends and sex as if they have these experiences, so it can seem as if they are having these experiences even if they are not. Lots of people your age and older haven't had a girlfriend or boyfriend. My first partner was not until i was 21. If you are not confident speaking with girls, building up confidence and skills in communicating is something you can work on now. It will be important for the future because it is one part of a good relationship.

    And I notice that you know what you find difficult and can express this. Knowing yourself is an important part of gaining confidence in who you are, and being able to communicate  this with important people in your life is part of good communication in all kinds of relationships, including if you have a girlfriend in the future.

    All the best.

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  • Hello connor9o9s

    Sometimes people st school talk about kissing, girlfriends and sex as if they have these experiences, so it can seem as if they are having these experiences even if they are not. Lots of people your age and older haven't had a girlfriend or boyfriend. My first partner was not until i was 21. If you are not confident speaking with girls, building up confidence and skills in communicating is something you can work on now. It will be important for the future because it is one part of a good relationship.

    And I notice that you know what you find difficult and can express this. Knowing yourself is an important part of gaining confidence in who you are, and being able to communicate  this with important people in your life is part of good communication in all kinds of relationships, including if you have a girlfriend in the future.

    All the best.

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