Positives and negatives of Asperger's

I am intrigued to know what people think. I bet we will disagree, but this is fine Smile If we all thought the same, discussion forums would be boring!

Anyway, the negatives for me are:

Inability to form meaningful friendships and relationships, despite having many acquaintances and potential social contacts

Inability to deal with choice, planning for the future, working out what is important in life and what I need to do to get there; a lack of direction

Inability to deal with unforeseen events and changes to my usual routine;  I require a lot of warning and mental preparation

Extreme anxiety and negative thinking, obsessions and fixations (the most disabling aspect of my condition)

Can't switch off my thoughts, or deal with too much stimuli, like noise, particularly when I am already stressed

All or nothing approach to things: I am either very interested in something or very bored and directionless

Social situations are tiring and unnatural; they always feel like I am acting a part, and they feel so fake and alienating. I always feel like I am hiding a dirty secret, and this causes social anxiety

Feeling alone in the world; problems with communicating my innermost thoughts

Endless procrastination; too much thinking and not enough doing

The positives, to me, are not to be found in the condition but in my own personality:

Endlessly curious and interested in things, so long as my anxiety is not taking over my thoughts

Motivated and keen to overcome my difficulties

A positive outlook; a belief that things can improve - where there is a will there is a way!

Conscientious

Will stick up for what I believe in

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  • Some of the positives for me is that I am really good at some subjects at school and sometimes I get really interested in certain things like technology and science and I watch videos and learn things. But there are also too many negatives....

    i have trouble focusing on what needs to be done and end up doing what I want to do so I end up procrastinating all the time until the last second. I can never put in my full effort into anything even the subjects that I am good at unless it really interests me so I end up getting mediocre grades although I could get much better grades. For example a few year ago I played the drums and did it for a few years and was really good at it without even practicing  at home only playing it for 30 mins a week but I just wasn't motivated so I dropped it because it didn't interest me. I also have a lot of trouble connecting to my peers and classmates especially talking to girls.... I really fear for my future and whyher I will have a gurlfriend, have a wife or even just have sex or any sexual contact which I do want to have some day but I can barely talk to a girl let alone start a close relationship.

    i really wish I could think of more positives.....

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  • Some of the positives for me is that I am really good at some subjects at school and sometimes I get really interested in certain things like technology and science and I watch videos and learn things. But there are also too many negatives....

    i have trouble focusing on what needs to be done and end up doing what I want to do so I end up procrastinating all the time until the last second. I can never put in my full effort into anything even the subjects that I am good at unless it really interests me so I end up getting mediocre grades although I could get much better grades. For example a few year ago I played the drums and did it for a few years and was really good at it without even practicing  at home only playing it for 30 mins a week but I just wasn't motivated so I dropped it because it didn't interest me. I also have a lot of trouble connecting to my peers and classmates especially talking to girls.... I really fear for my future and whyher I will have a gurlfriend, have a wife or even just have sex or any sexual contact which I do want to have some day but I can barely talk to a girl let alone start a close relationship.

    i really wish I could think of more positives.....

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