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Positives and negatives of Asperger's

Hope

I am intrigued to know what people think. I bet we will disagree, but this is fine Smile If we all thought the same, discussion forums would be boring!

Anyway, the negatives for me are:

Inability to form meaningful friendships and relationships, despite having many acquaintances and potential social contacts

Inability to deal with choice, planning for the future, working out what is important in life and what I need to do to get there; a lack of direction

Inability to deal with unforeseen events and changes to my usual routine;  I require a lot of warning and mental preparation

Extreme anxiety and negative thinking, obsessions and fixations (the most disabling aspect of my condition)

Can't switch off my thoughts, or deal with too much stimuli, like noise, particularly when I am already stressed

All or nothing approach to things: I am either very interested in something or very bored and directionless

Social situations are tiring and unnatural; they always feel like I am acting a part, and they feel so fake and alienating. I always feel like I am hiding a dirty secret, and this causes social anxiety

Feeling alone in the world; problems with communicating my innermost thoughts

Endless procrastination; too much thinking and not enough doing

The positives, to me, are not to be found in the condition but in my own personality:

Endlessly curious and interested in things, so long as my anxiety is not taking over my thoughts

Motivated and keen to overcome my difficulties

A positive outlook; a belief that things can improve - where there is a will there is a way!

Conscientious

Will stick up for what I believe in

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  • Hope, my list would be exactly the same.  Being on the spectrum has a lot of challenges, some of them rather difficult to live with, but I would never change who I am.

    I love how I see the world differently than everyone else.  Having the curiosity of a child.  I do photography occasionally because I love different colours and textures, but also because I like to show things from a different angle.  I tend to notice what others don't.

    I love how fascinated I get over the smallest thing.  I spent ages looking over how gemstones and minerals are formed in the earth, and why water vapour and methan are greenhouse gases where as nitrogen and oxygen are not.

    I find I appreciate everything around me that bit more.  I have a great sense of respect for everyone(if deserved) and people like me for being honest.

    But, yes, the constant stimulus in the brain gets a bit much sometimes!  When I'm out and about I can hear every little noise and it's hard to make sense from it all so having conversations when there is backround noise just doesn't work for me.  Also, smells!  Bleh.  I can smell everything and I find a lot of it unpleasant.

    But, as unpleasant as it is, I'd definitely not change it.  So what if I don't have lots of friends, the (2) friends I do have (that includes my partner) I know are really good friends.  My only friend who is a girl loves my honest bluntness.  I still don't phone her up for a chat or talk to her everyday, but I'm here for whenever she needs me.

    I might change my confidence though.  I have all this wonderful enthusiasm for everything but being called stupid and distuptive all my life has nearly destroyed that in me.  It's taking me time to rebuild.  So, I do wish I never took those people (students and teachers) in school literally because I've spent my life believing I was stupid.  But, I've just ordered a book on Amazon called Our Mathematical Universe and I'm very interested about Max's views on how numbers are important to the universe and just generally a new way of thinking.  Don't think stupid people would be able to read this book.

    I'm very open minded so I'm very accepting, so things like racism, religious hate, judgement, etc, doesn't exist with me.  Anyone who wants to get to know is welcome to.  I'm also good at keeping secrets because I don't feel the need to gossip.  I like how people can trust me like that.

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  • Hope, my list would be exactly the same.  Being on the spectrum has a lot of challenges, some of them rather difficult to live with, but I would never change who I am.

    I love how I see the world differently than everyone else.  Having the curiosity of a child.  I do photography occasionally because I love different colours and textures, but also because I like to show things from a different angle.  I tend to notice what others don't.

    I love how fascinated I get over the smallest thing.  I spent ages looking over how gemstones and minerals are formed in the earth, and why water vapour and methan are greenhouse gases where as nitrogen and oxygen are not.

    I find I appreciate everything around me that bit more.  I have a great sense of respect for everyone(if deserved) and people like me for being honest.

    But, yes, the constant stimulus in the brain gets a bit much sometimes!  When I'm out and about I can hear every little noise and it's hard to make sense from it all so having conversations when there is backround noise just doesn't work for me.  Also, smells!  Bleh.  I can smell everything and I find a lot of it unpleasant.

    But, as unpleasant as it is, I'd definitely not change it.  So what if I don't have lots of friends, the (2) friends I do have (that includes my partner) I know are really good friends.  My only friend who is a girl loves my honest bluntness.  I still don't phone her up for a chat or talk to her everyday, but I'm here for whenever she needs me.

    I might change my confidence though.  I have all this wonderful enthusiasm for everything but being called stupid and distuptive all my life has nearly destroyed that in me.  It's taking me time to rebuild.  So, I do wish I never took those people (students and teachers) in school literally because I've spent my life believing I was stupid.  But, I've just ordered a book on Amazon called Our Mathematical Universe and I'm very interested about Max's views on how numbers are important to the universe and just generally a new way of thinking.  Don't think stupid people would be able to read this book.

    I'm very open minded so I'm very accepting, so things like racism, religious hate, judgement, etc, doesn't exist with me.  Anyone who wants to get to know is welcome to.  I'm also good at keeping secrets because I don't feel the need to gossip.  I like how people can trust me like that.

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