Published on 12, July, 2020
I don't know if my grief is causing me to act out or something, but I feel really sensitive to being told no. Even if it's something I raise to my parents of "I want to go to this place" and the thing in question is, practicality wise, extremely difficult, I hate being told no.
I feel like something is taken away from me. Like they're telling me "you're stupid and you know nothing and you should stop talking", but then I am used to people like my brother saying that more outwardly.
There's a separate discussion as to whether I should even have to ask at the ripe old age of 27, and with most things I wouldn't consider it, but maybe it's also demand avoidance.
HMO said:I feel really sensitive to being told no.
I suspect this is related to PDA (Pathological Deand Avoidance) which is a common autistic trait.
Your parents are essentially demanding you do not do something and you are resisting their demand, made especially sensitive because it was something you came up with.
At age 27 you would normally have the autonomy to do whatever you like so long as you are covering the costs / effort involved and it does not impact your parents. If your parents are responsible for any of these things then you wll have to suck it up as you are not the only party to this situation.