Obsessions taking over my work time

Hi everyone, I just wanted to ask for some help and see if others shared the same experiences.

I have a part time job in a pretty big "career" type industry, and generally cope well as I can be highly focussed, I'm good at making sure I know what I'm supposed to deliver, and I like the people a lot now that I know them all well.  I do struggle with new people, or situations where I don't feel in control like going unprepared into meetings, and I prefer to stick to emails rather than face to face / phone conversations.

Anyway, what I wanted to discuss is special interests / obsessions and their interaction with work.  In the past I've always been able to keep things separate - I have leant not to "get onto one of my topics" because I don't shut up when people expect me to, and I think I can bore people.  So I generally enjoy my interests outside work and try not to talk about them in work much.

Recently I've been composing fiction in my head, all based on universes of characters from books / films, its something I like to think about when I have spare time.  I'm finding it is starting to take over whilst I'm at work too.  I guess its because my mind is bored and I'm not very engaged at work right now (tough times in the company, redundancies likely, mood generally negative and lots of people disengaged and working below full potential, myself included).  I am really struggling to keep my mind on the job.  I find I'm daydreaming a lot, my head is off in my little story universe and I forget to get on with the work i'm supposed to be doing.  I find this quite stressful because I want to do my best at work, they are paying me to use my mind on work tasks and I don't feel I'm being fair - but I'm not doing it deliberately.

Does anyone else struggle with this sort of thing, and do you ahve any tips for getting back to being focussed?  I want to feel useful and like i'm contributing again, rather than just waiting out the time to the next paycheck without getting "caught" for messing about.

It does seem that many NTs at work don't worry about wasting time having a coffee and a chat - is this an equivalent sort of thing?  I only go for coffee with people if I have something to discuss like career coaching or a specific problem with office life.  How much "wasted" time is reasonable? So tricky!

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  • As you say, NTs are good at what is sometimes labelled "displacement activity". Huge amounts of work time are wasted on social chat, and on socially based skulduggery (as in the comedy series The Office for example).

    The thing is, with office social networks it is hard for managers to find out what is going on, as all the little "cogs" in this social machine protect each other. Individuals time-wasting are easier to spot, and particularly any mis-use of computers for external chat sites, porn, sport or video downloads.

    I've had terrible trouble with "reading up" over the years - so many jobs involve reading the explanatory manuals, or using computer based self-training sites, or reading up component or system specifications. These can be so boring I was often in the position of being on the same page at the end of the day from when I started, through day dreaming and switching off. However nobody seemed to notice.

    My way out of this was to structure my time to achieve certain objectives by the end of the day, and I would try to find different angles to the work to make the assimilation process more interesting.

    One of my worst experiences of this was during a period of low business. I was working in a systems management house (this is in my R&D rather than teaching years), and company rules required we had to appear to be doing something, even if we had nothing productive to do - so no reading fiction or magazines, unless you could hide it in a manual. To make matters worse, one of the Directors, a rather short character, would sneak round the office jumping on anyone he perceived insufficiently engaged. The numbers going sick through stress was considerable, but the Directors were too stupid to realise this pretend doing something approach wasn't practical.

    In that same company, one bloke was managing a wine importing business on the side, using the phones and company paper, and photocopying, and they never noticed. You see he looked busy.

    I think you just have to remember that collective social time wasters are more efficient at avoiding being caught. If you are on your own you have to take safeguarding measures to ensure you have a good story if challenged.

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  • As you say, NTs are good at what is sometimes labelled "displacement activity". Huge amounts of work time are wasted on social chat, and on socially based skulduggery (as in the comedy series The Office for example).

    The thing is, with office social networks it is hard for managers to find out what is going on, as all the little "cogs" in this social machine protect each other. Individuals time-wasting are easier to spot, and particularly any mis-use of computers for external chat sites, porn, sport or video downloads.

    I've had terrible trouble with "reading up" over the years - so many jobs involve reading the explanatory manuals, or using computer based self-training sites, or reading up component or system specifications. These can be so boring I was often in the position of being on the same page at the end of the day from when I started, through day dreaming and switching off. However nobody seemed to notice.

    My way out of this was to structure my time to achieve certain objectives by the end of the day, and I would try to find different angles to the work to make the assimilation process more interesting.

    One of my worst experiences of this was during a period of low business. I was working in a systems management house (this is in my R&D rather than teaching years), and company rules required we had to appear to be doing something, even if we had nothing productive to do - so no reading fiction or magazines, unless you could hide it in a manual. To make matters worse, one of the Directors, a rather short character, would sneak round the office jumping on anyone he perceived insufficiently engaged. The numbers going sick through stress was considerable, but the Directors were too stupid to realise this pretend doing something approach wasn't practical.

    In that same company, one bloke was managing a wine importing business on the side, using the phones and company paper, and photocopying, and they never noticed. You see he looked busy.

    I think you just have to remember that collective social time wasters are more efficient at avoiding being caught. If you are on your own you have to take safeguarding measures to ensure you have a good story if challenged.

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