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Bullying at Work and Employer breaking the Law

Muckworm

Hi Friends (I think!)

 

I haven't posted for a while and this is why - can anyone make suggestions as to how I cope with my situation at work?

I work full time and have held this job for 6 years now but I made a decision not to disclose to my employer that I had a diagnosis of Autism because I believe I lost my last 2 jobs because of that. And I want to work.

I like the content of my job very much, it suits me - it is methodical and predictable. But recently we have had some staff changes, mainly staff leaving and not being replaced due to financial pressures on the business. One of the staff who left was good to me and we had similar interests and I miss him.

Since he left I have been bullied by another member of staff who he protected me from. I have told my boss and he says 'he is dealing with it' but he can't be because nothing has changed. This person leaves me out - makes drinks for others and not me, brings sweets in for everyone but says I'm not allowed them, swears at me, spreads gossip about me and has started making a mess in the toilet which I am made to clean up.

In addition to this my working hours are now in excess of 48 hours a week. I told my boss this is against EU Working Directive and I think the law as I have not agreed to it and he said, 'if you don't want to work the door's over there'. I am also denied breaks in my day and the other day did 13 hours without a break and was shouted at for going to the toilet.

I don't want to lose this job because I am better off than I have ever been finincially and I like it but I am struggling to cope day to day.

Any suggestions of how to get through this difficult period? I am hoping it is going to be short lived but I don't know.

Thanks for helping out - you have always been so helpful in the past. I have had a good year up till all this happening - I have managed to make some progress in my life socially by joining a group but all that is at risk because I have lost my confidence and I tend to be mute when I am stressed.

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  • Just a follow up to Longman's comment -

    If you are a child or young person on the spectrum it seems there is much in the way of help and support, I don't know if this continues into adulthood, I hope so. If you are like me and diagnosed as an adult, there is NOTHING. I was given my diagnosis and sent on my way.

    When I have shared that diagnosis with previous employers and others I have known it has either not been taken seriously or it has been assumed I have a mental health issue (which I don't).

    The great unwashed out there have no idea about autism/Asperger's and as a result people like me and I suspect there are many thousands like me, fall under radar's at work and other places.

    I have effectively given up on life, I am only saving now to have the future I want for me which will be on my own - I do not want to be with anyone anymore because I am fed up of being discriminated against, insulted and treated like an idiot because I have autism. In fact I am highly intelligent (IQ of 155), exceptionally gifted mathematically and I feel a nice person. I have always tried to be kind because I think that's how people should be. But life and other's misunderstanding and rejection of me has finished me off.

    Health agencies and NAS, in my view, should be doing a lot more to educate people about adults with autism so we can be better integrated into society. I want to offer something positive to society but it seems society doesn't want people like me. And at times I feel neither does the NAS or the Health agencies.

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  • Just a follow up to Longman's comment -

    If you are a child or young person on the spectrum it seems there is much in the way of help and support, I don't know if this continues into adulthood, I hope so. If you are like me and diagnosed as an adult, there is NOTHING. I was given my diagnosis and sent on my way.

    When I have shared that diagnosis with previous employers and others I have known it has either not been taken seriously or it has been assumed I have a mental health issue (which I don't).

    The great unwashed out there have no idea about autism/Asperger's and as a result people like me and I suspect there are many thousands like me, fall under radar's at work and other places.

    I have effectively given up on life, I am only saving now to have the future I want for me which will be on my own - I do not want to be with anyone anymore because I am fed up of being discriminated against, insulted and treated like an idiot because I have autism. In fact I am highly intelligent (IQ of 155), exceptionally gifted mathematically and I feel a nice person. I have always tried to be kind because I think that's how people should be. But life and other's misunderstanding and rejection of me has finished me off.

    Health agencies and NAS, in my view, should be doing a lot more to educate people about adults with autism so we can be better integrated into society. I want to offer something positive to society but it seems society doesn't want people like me. And at times I feel neither does the NAS or the Health agencies.

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