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Bullying at Work and Employer breaking the Law

Muckworm

Hi Friends (I think!)

 

I haven't posted for a while and this is why - can anyone make suggestions as to how I cope with my situation at work?

I work full time and have held this job for 6 years now but I made a decision not to disclose to my employer that I had a diagnosis of Autism because I believe I lost my last 2 jobs because of that. And I want to work.

I like the content of my job very much, it suits me - it is methodical and predictable. But recently we have had some staff changes, mainly staff leaving and not being replaced due to financial pressures on the business. One of the staff who left was good to me and we had similar interests and I miss him.

Since he left I have been bullied by another member of staff who he protected me from. I have told my boss and he says 'he is dealing with it' but he can't be because nothing has changed. This person leaves me out - makes drinks for others and not me, brings sweets in for everyone but says I'm not allowed them, swears at me, spreads gossip about me and has started making a mess in the toilet which I am made to clean up.

In addition to this my working hours are now in excess of 48 hours a week. I told my boss this is against EU Working Directive and I think the law as I have not agreed to it and he said, 'if you don't want to work the door's over there'. I am also denied breaks in my day and the other day did 13 hours without a break and was shouted at for going to the toilet.

I don't want to lose this job because I am better off than I have ever been finincially and I like it but I am struggling to cope day to day.

Any suggestions of how to get through this difficult period? I am hoping it is going to be short lived but I don't know.

Thanks for helping out - you have always been so helpful in the past. I have had a good year up till all this happening - I have managed to make some progress in my life socially by joining a group but all that is at risk because I have lost my confidence and I tend to be mute when I am stressed.

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  • Hi - I would like to thank people for their time in replying to me.

    I have been to see a solicitor who specialises in Employment Law. He was very helpful but cannot help me!

    What I mean by that is, he helped me to see that my employer is not actually breaking the law - he is acting within the confines of the law 99% of the time. If I can prove beyond any doubt with hard evidence that I am being singled out for harrassment I have a chance of making a claim against the company but proving it would be hard.

    Like Longman says, what I perceive as offensive, someone else would say it's office banter. It's proving it that is difficult - my boss can just say I am over sensitive.

    I know that I am being singled out and I realise there is very little I can do about it at the moment. What I am trying to do is create some support outside work that can help me cope with it while it lasts, in the hope it won't be forever or that I can get another job. I am also making written accounts of one person who is bullying me and passing that to my boss each week. He still says he is doing something about it.

    I have decided at the current time to remain quiet about my autism diagnosis as I think it would make the situation worse.

    This is a shame because the content of what I do is good and I like it.

    But thank you for your help.

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  • Hi - I would like to thank people for their time in replying to me.

    I have been to see a solicitor who specialises in Employment Law. He was very helpful but cannot help me!

    What I mean by that is, he helped me to see that my employer is not actually breaking the law - he is acting within the confines of the law 99% of the time. If I can prove beyond any doubt with hard evidence that I am being singled out for harrassment I have a chance of making a claim against the company but proving it would be hard.

    Like Longman says, what I perceive as offensive, someone else would say it's office banter. It's proving it that is difficult - my boss can just say I am over sensitive.

    I know that I am being singled out and I realise there is very little I can do about it at the moment. What I am trying to do is create some support outside work that can help me cope with it while it lasts, in the hope it won't be forever or that I can get another job. I am also making written accounts of one person who is bullying me and passing that to my boss each week. He still says he is doing something about it.

    I have decided at the current time to remain quiet about my autism diagnosis as I think it would make the situation worse.

    This is a shame because the content of what I do is good and I like it.

    But thank you for your help.

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