Looking for book recommendation

Pixiefox, I started yesterday the book. 

It's excelent and i really like it. I'm almost at the middle of it. I'll let you know my progress.

Thanks!

Pixiefox said:

believing they have the same characteristics we presume we have

thanks for the recommendation! it is very interesting how you describe it!! I'll try find that book. thanks so much

I found Gina Ripon's, The Gendered Brain, really good, it shows just how limited so much of the thinking around autism actually is and how small the evidence base is for so many assumptions.

 "How to handle Neurotypicals" by Abel Abelson. I found it very interesting.

It explains how we we project our own self-image, or the ideas we have about ourselves, on other people, believing they have the same characteristics we presume we have, but advised that we shouldn't assume that another person is basically or fundamentally the same as us. We should start from thinking they are completely different, while gradually finding convergent points if there are any.

It also touches on the problem we have all had of trying to take off masks and find our true self, which gives rise to a problem in recognising other autistic people: "You might have been so busy overadapting and mimicking neurotypical behavior, and the same may be true for those other people like you, that it has become almost impossible to mutually recognize each other as actually similar beings. You may have been together at the same party, both thoroughly hating every aspect of it, and both so successfully mimicking joy and integration, that you didn’t even recognize each other’s similarities."

It also explains that it's futile expecting other people to change, or trying to change them ourselves, but that we can survive better by finding our own solutions to problems.

Swiftie14 said:

I'm looking for some books about Asperger

There is a huge range to choose from - what do you want to know about?

Is it as simple as a guide to autism (note that Aspergers is no longer used as it is considered a part of the wider autism spectrum, sometimes referred to as High Functioning Autism)?

Do you want help following a diafgnosis to understand your situaiton?

Do you want help making friends and socialising?

Do you want relationship advice for you or your partner?

Do you want help with anxiety and/or meltdowns?

Do you want books about autism from the female perspective?

Do you want help with connecting to or understanding emotions?

Do you want help with a career with autism?

Do you want help with parenting with autism or with autistic children?

I can give recommendations of books in all these categories and loads more besides so let me know what you want to delve into first.

thanks <3

"Self-Care For Autistic People - 100 Ways to Recharge, De-Stress, and Unmask!" by Dr. Meghan Anna Neff (Neurodivergent Psychologist)

thanks :)

'Unmasking Autism: The Power of Embracing Our Hidden Neurodiversity - Devon Price.'
Really great book exploring unmasking, learning a bit more about ASD, and self-acceptance.