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Anxiety in a Hotel Family Room

Claire

Hi

My child has always really struggled if we stay in a hotel. He is 14 years old now and we stayed in a family room recently for the first time in 10 years. I had forgotten!! The moment we stepped into the hotel room, he became highly anxious.

He is not normally anxious. He is thriving in most areas of life, so it is remarkable to me he experienced this instant high stress at walking into a hotel room.

I wonder what it is that immediately sets him off?

I'm thinking it might be the fact that there is nowhere to hide from the family when we are all sharing a room (mum dad and brother). 

Do others have similar experience or are there any other ideas of what it could be that sparks such immediate and unusually intense anxiety in him?

The reason we haven't stayed in hotel rooms for 10 years is because he used to literally not sleep at all and I'd be driving all night or walking him around in a pushchair. It had been so long, I'd forgotten!

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  • When I was kid I loved going on holiday but one of the worst parts was sharing a hotel room with my family. 

    For me it was the fact I couldn’t really have any alone time to recharge from socialising more so it made me very drained. I also hated how different it was to my sleeping setup at home.

    Things that helped me was making sure I had some alone time in the room when I could. Maybe for you and your son this could look like the rest of the family going to a bar in the hotel whilst your son can recharge on his own in the room ?

    Something that still helps me to this day when feeling anxious in hotels is bringing stuff that remind me of home and trying to stick to certain routines I have at home the best I can. This for me looks like bringing a plush and sticking to a similar night time routine. 

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  • When I was kid I loved going on holiday but one of the worst parts was sharing a hotel room with my family. 

    For me it was the fact I couldn’t really have any alone time to recharge from socialising more so it made me very drained. I also hated how different it was to my sleeping setup at home.

    Things that helped me was making sure I had some alone time in the room when I could. Maybe for you and your son this could look like the rest of the family going to a bar in the hotel whilst your son can recharge on his own in the room ?

    Something that still helps me to this day when feeling anxious in hotels is bringing stuff that remind me of home and trying to stick to certain routines I have at home the best I can. This for me looks like bringing a plush and sticking to a similar night time routine. 

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