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Do you find it hard to say no to people?

Miss Understood

I’m wondering whether there’s a correlation between autism and people pleasing tendencies. I struggle a lot with setting boundaries and standing my ground and I will give in to people easily. I feel obligated to say yes to everything even if I don’t want to do it or I think the person is asking too much. It doesn’t help when they start piling on the pressure if I say I can’t or they try to make me feel guilty. I don’t know if this is related to my autism or not. 

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  • Yeah definitely, the challenge of reading social cues/repercussions for reading them wrong and the stress that comes with suddenly being told you’ve ‘wronged’ someone without realising it can lead to people pleasing tendencies to compensate. I think there’s also a lot of guilt placed on some autistic people for their needs and the fact they’re often changeable, so we feel the need to ‘make up for that’. 

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  • Yeah definitely, the challenge of reading social cues/repercussions for reading them wrong and the stress that comes with suddenly being told you’ve ‘wronged’ someone without realising it can lead to people pleasing tendencies to compensate. I think there’s also a lot of guilt placed on some autistic people for their needs and the fact they’re often changeable, so we feel the need to ‘make up for that’. 

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