Do you find it hard to say no to people?

I've also had issues with having boundaries and saying no to people and people pleasing tendencies, which I was not proud of, but then I realized I grew up with abuse. I mean I think everyone in my family is mentally wired differently, with social difficulties, since whenever we went out as a family, we'd stick out like a sore thumb, and everyone looked at us as if we were dysfunctional, even if we tried to look and act as normal and natural as possible, people noticed.

I know that whenever I say no to people, they might not like it, and I used to get physically hurt to the point that I was terrified of saying no. But nowadays I'm willing to take the consequences that come from saying no to people. I'm willing to take their crap, and still remain firm in my no. I've been raised to remain silent and never cause trouble to people, and just to tolerate being badly treated by people. But now I speak up and say something about it, and I'm willing to take the consequences that come with that, because it can't be any worse than what I've been through already. If I remain silent, the cycle of abuse continues. People take advantage of me, and use me, and put me down, and treat me like a doormat. Speaking up has it's reprocussions as well, but it has the chance of solving the issues, and speaking up is repected in most situations by people as well. It's either I say yes and do as they say, or I say no and face the consequences of that. But I have to pick my poison. Everyone has to. 

In general, I'm a kind person to kind people. And I'll set boundaries for people who step on me. I don't really like setting boundaries, or conflict, or saying no, or standing up for myself, but I've learned to do it, because it generally has a better outcome than being in the cycle of abuse. 

I've also had issues with having boundaries and saying no to people and people pleasing tendencies, which I was not proud of, but then I realized I grew up with abuse. I mean I think everyone in my family is mentally wired differently, with social difficulties, since whenever we went out as a family, we'd stick out like a sore thumb, and everyone looked at us as if we were dysfunctional, even if we tried to look and act as normal and natural as possible, people noticed.

I know that whenever I say no to people, they might not like it, and I used to get physically hurt to the point that I was terrified of saying no. But nowadays I'm willing to take the consequences that come from saying no to people. I'm willing to take their crap, and still remain firm in my no. I've been raised to remain silent and never cause trouble to people, and just to tolerate being badly treated by people. But now I speak up and say something about it, and I'm willing to take the consequences that come with that, because it can't be any worse than what I've been through already. If I remain silent, the cycle of abuse continues. People take advantage of me, and use me, and put me down, and treat me like a doormat. Speaking up has it's reprocussions as well, but it has the chance of solving the issues, and speaking up is repected in most situations by people as well. It's either I say yes and do as they say, or I say no and face the consequences of that. But I have to pick my poison. Everyone has to. 

In general, I'm a kind person to kind people. And I'll set boundaries for people who step on me. I don't really like setting boundaries, or conflict, or saying no, or standing up for myself, but I've learned to do it, because it generally has a better outcome than being in the cycle of abuse.