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Autism or bad behaviour

NAS93562
1 month ago

Hi , new here. My 7 year old is currently being assessed for Autism. His always quite well behaved at home as we can see when something is triggering him and distract him before it escalates or he will take himself off to his bedroom when he gets over stimulated.

However tonight he has absolutely lost it, worst meltdown yet. Hit myself, his step dad. Told us he hates us were horrible etc. I've put him in his room to calm down and to safeguard ourselves and his little brothers. My question is how do you know when it's his Autism/over stimulated or his just being a pre-teenage boy?

Myself and my partner have sat down and both said the same. We don't know how to punish him as we can't always tell which it is. Obviously if his being his back chatty teenage self he will just lose electrical devices for the day but I don't want to punish him for something he can't help. Be kind I'm sat crying feeling like the worse mum ever Upside down

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  • 1 month ago

    Hi, here are few things you can look at: is this meltdown or temper tantrum? Meltdown is caused by a situation/emotions or environment that is too much and upsetting so much that the person can not control themselves. I went through this as a child and teenager. But I was never understood and always laughed at for this reason. My meltdowns were absolutely awful, destructive and just terrible and it took me long time to recover. It also took me years to find strategies to avoid them.

    temper tantrum is basically a manipulative behavior, goal oriented “I want something”. 
    Afrer having a meltdown I felt absolutely exhausted and terribly ashamed and embarrassed. 
    you can look some articles about how to handle a meltdown, how to help the person calm down. This behavior should be consulted with a therapist and the therapist should help you find a way to help your son and whole family. Here on this site there is also a guidance how to help with meltdown but I can’t copy the link. 

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  • 1 month ago

    Hi, here are few things you can look at: is this meltdown or temper tantrum? Meltdown is caused by a situation/emotions or environment that is too much and upsetting so much that the person can not control themselves. I went through this as a child and teenager. But I was never understood and always laughed at for this reason. My meltdowns were absolutely awful, destructive and just terrible and it took me long time to recover. It also took me years to find strategies to avoid them.

    temper tantrum is basically a manipulative behavior, goal oriented “I want something”. 
    Afrer having a meltdown I felt absolutely exhausted and terribly ashamed and embarrassed. 
    you can look some articles about how to handle a meltdown, how to help the person calm down. This behavior should be consulted with a therapist and the therapist should help you find a way to help your son and whole family. Here on this site there is also a guidance how to help with meltdown but I can’t copy the link. 

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