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Feels like there's a block between me and doing my work- is it normal?

miztwizted

I'm doing a foundation year of university and my final project is due in a couple weeks and I cannot work for the life of me. I'm diagnosed autistic and this has been happening for years. I want to do my work, I want to pass the course but I cannot pull myself to work.

I described it as me being on one side of a barbed fence and me doing the work on the other side. I could jump over the fence to get to the other side but it'll hurt me. I forced myself to do one project and nearly made myself sick with anxiety about it, I wanna try not do that again but as the deadline's getting closer, it seems like I might have to. 

Is this normal? This feeling of there being a block between wanting to work ane actually doing it? I've been called lazy and unmotivated so I was just wondering. If it is, does anyone have advice for me or a solution? Ty :)

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  • I suffer from either this, or something (very similar) myself. 

    In the bad old days this was considered to be a major character failing, called "idleness", or "sloth", and a severe beating was often quickly administered to the child exhibiting it, in order to teach them "Self Discipline", along the lines of "find a way to get that done, or another beating will happen" and many children learned very quickly.

    I did not find that I had much of that "self discipline" so I caught a lot of beatings as a child, and missed out on a lot of opportunity as an adult.

    I've found some specific situations and workarounds that do work, such as "keeping ones eye on the prize" you may have to cross that barbed wire fence, but if your attention is focussed on WHY you are crossing that fence and what you expect to get at the end of it, you are less likely to focus on the fence itself. 

    Let's see what the others have to say, but I'm inerested in working this problem with you, as I really need to get more or teh right stuff  done, and less "displacement activity"...

    Some peoeple here will/may have solved the problem... IF we are lucky.

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