Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, I'm new here, and hoping that this is something some of you might understand.
I'm 28 and have autism. I struggle in such a big way with seemingly normal every day things. Because of my physical health problems I'm unable to work but I want to become more independent so like doing my own banking, my parents do this for me at the moment. And I want to start learning to cook so I can look after myself as and when I need to when my parents aren't around anymore.
But there's a problem. My anxiety. It's absolutely monstrous and it affects me in so many ways, physically and mentally. I want to learn to cook but I'm so anxious about doing it for so many reasons.
I'm worried about,
I know I shouldn't let my anxiety win and rule my life but I can't help it. It's got this bad that it always wins and I've had therapy and everything but nothing has helped me.
I'm open to any suggestions and advice. Please help. I desperately want to be able to cook and enjoy the stuff I make. I've bought so many pots and pans, and cooking tools, but I haven't been able to use any of them yet.
Welcome! Do you feel like there's someone who could help you, step by step? It might be more of use to you than, say, just reading or watching something.
I'm a similar age to you and don't really cook either for similar reasons.
Possibly my mum but she is super protective of me which I do appreciate but she can be a little overprotective and it's awkward. I want to try more things on my own but I don't want to come across as ungrateful for her help and seem rude.
I thought maybe watching something like on YouTube but I'm not great at doing more than one thing at a time. But I'm hoping it's something I might be able to adapt to.
HMO said:I'm a similar age to you and don't really cook either for similar reasons.
I'm glad I'm not the only one ️
It's a difficult balance. I hope you'll be able to find what works for you.
That's really positive. I think it's also an executive dysfunction thing.
Thank you and when the time comes I hope you can as well. Just remember to go at your own pace and do what you feel. I'm taking this approach now and I am much happier and feeling less pressured.