Eye Contact

Hello all

I have a question about eye contact. I can make and maintain eye contact, and I remember someone telling me when I was younger that I need to make sure to "look the interviewer in the eye" when I went for interviews. Which is one of my reasons for suspecting I am autistic rather than socially anxious. I don't like eye contact, I do not understand why people feel connected by eye contact.

I've been paying attention to this recently and I have noticed that when I look people in the eye, their eyes dart all over the place. Does anyone else recognize this? I wonder if my eyes are darting around and they are trying to follow or it's just something I'm picking up on.

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  • I tend to struggle to take in what people are saying if I am busy "trying to make eye contact" ,there are the odd times I seem to do ok, but generally not.

    Usually get accused of not listening by anyone who would say it, or a look of disapproval from those who wouldn't...

    Weird though, I listen with my ears not my eyes, so it's a bit like that old "look with your eyes not your hands" phrase that kids say when someone grabs your toys and says they're " just looking " Joy

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  • I tend to struggle to take in what people are saying if I am busy "trying to make eye contact" ,there are the odd times I seem to do ok, but generally not.

    Usually get accused of not listening by anyone who would say it, or a look of disapproval from those who wouldn't...

    Weird though, I listen with my ears not my eyes, so it's a bit like that old "look with your eyes not your hands" phrase that kids say when someone grabs your toys and says they're " just looking " Joy

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