Published on 12, July, 2020
I'm new here but I'm struggling with the above topic. As stupid as it sounds, I end up pushing people away because I don't think before speaking. Anyone got any advice? I've got that feeling of wanting to break something or hurt myself somehow because I'm pushing people away. How can I get these people back and apologise for my stupidity?
SamMorrell1990 said:or hurt myself somehow
We all know (to some extent) what you mean. Accordingly, I think it is safe to speak for "us all" when I say that this is always a VERY VERY unhelpful mindset, and never a solution to explore !
SamMorrell1990 said:apologise for my stupidity?
Given the context of where we currently find ourselves (the NAS forum), I think it is reasonable to presume that you are not stupid, but merely different. I REGULARLY apologise for my "difference" because I know it unsettles people - whilst I accept that this is deemed an 'unhelpful message to offer on behalf of the ND community"......I thankfully only need to answer for, and to, myself and my Guardians. If I accidentally make someone jump....I apologise, because I'm English...even if it wasn't my "fault."
Dear Sam Morrell, I think you are at the start of a discombobulating journey. Buckle up, friend. Pushing people away is part of my default setting (or, to be fair, neglecting them to be more accurate)....but then I do that with MANY things. The people who are important to me, know that.
Find your people. It might mean a period of uncomfortable "whittling" - aka loss - whilst to get to "get yourself."
Good luck Sam.
Kind regards
Number.