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I Don't Think Neurotypicals Understand What We Autistics Mean By Accommodate to Us Who Are Autistic

enflores3000

I think people who are neurotypical don't honestly get what we Autistics are asking when it comes to us asking to be accommodated to and I feel it has to do with the brainwashing they to over complicate and over think things.

Like I don't think us who are Autistic are asking a lot of people, yeah there are things beyond our control, like the other day I went to a reenactment and they had some loud noises with guns and cannons going off which was a sensory overload for me.

I mean for me to have a function relationship with me is simple:

  1. Don't say things you don't mean. I get there is things that happen, for example, you want to go to the store but your car isn't working so you can't, that's one thing.
  2. Don't be a hypocrite and have double standards and get upset with me for doing the same thing you were doing. Like for example, my friend is upset that I talked to people and showed them a private conversation between us and yet they went and brought their friends into things long before me. Told me not to tell anyone but it's okay for him to, but I'm the problem...
  3. Don't assume things about me and make me like I am neurotypicals. I'm not neurotypical so my way of thinking isn't the way of thinking like other neurotypicals. Like for example, I've been accused of having a "hidden agenda" or like I'm some vindictive person trying to hurt people when that's not the case, I am either very upset because I don't feel heard or I'm telling my side of the story and showing the evidence to back me up so people know I'm not lying.
  4. Have your actions meet your words. Like if people say they understand, show me you understand.
  5. Don't put words in my mouth that I don't say. If I'm not saying it, then I don't mean that.
  6. Compromise with me so we both can get what we want, don't make it where it is one trying to force the other to do just what they want.

How is stuff like this hard for neurotypicals to conform to just so I can function? What about anyone else? What is it that you need accommodated that neurotypicals don't seem to understand?

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  • My husband is angry that I wear earplugs at home because of the noise out daughter creates. I have no idea, how to explain to him that it hurts my ears. Her toys when she throws them, when she screams or just talks too loud. Coffee machine also irritates me. I’m not asking them to stop creating noise. I know that it’s normal and it is what it is. I’m just asking them to understand that I need to cover my ears. I still hear them, I still hear the birds singing or car passing or dog barking but it’s less intense. How my husband can understand… how to explain? Then of course I hear that I’m exaggerating and overreacting “it’s just a little kid” it’s just a toy etc… I’m not gonna mention anything about autism. I’m really scared of the reaction of my family. The thing is that I usually cover my ears in the city, but only when I walk alone. So nobody actually knows that. Now the situation is more challenging at home. 

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    I am so sorry that your being invalidated and I get it, that's the problem they don't think it's a big deal but it is a big deal to us because it's over stimulating to you. It's like why are they making a big deal out of something that bothers you and just accept that and let you do what you need to to not be over stimulated?

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