Published on 12, July, 2020
I think people who are neurotypical don't honestly get what we Autistics are asking when it comes to us asking to be accommodated to and I feel it has to do with the brainwashing they to over complicate and over think things.Like I don't think us who are Autistic are asking a lot of people, yeah there are things beyond our control, like the other day I went to a reenactment and they had some loud noises with guns and cannons going off which was a sensory overload for me.I mean for me to have a function relationship with me is simple:
How is stuff like this hard for neurotypicals to conform to just so I can function? What about anyone else? What is it that you need accommodated that neurotypicals don't seem to understand?
Neurotypicals not knowing isn't my issue. I'd have more of an issue if, after having explained as thoroughly as I possibly can (without being accusatory or abrasive), there's been no progress.
It's on me to explain it well, and that has never been my strength. I'm better at it now I know I have the option to send an email or something.
HMO said:It's on me to explain it well, and that has never been my strength
Just wanted to say you're not alone with this. Whenever I try to explain autism and how it affects my life I completely end up screwing it up and then I end up silent where my brains desperately trying to figure out a smooth recovery...
I'm glad it helps. I think it just helps to have people around you who try to understand.
It's a nightmare right? :/
Yeah same for me. If I've got time to think and prepare on what I'll say then it goes much smoother. If I'm put on the spot then it will normally be a disaster and I'll crash and burn.
I have an autism badge I bought from this site. It means I don't get bombarded with questions and it explains to people why I might be quiet or just in general be acting differently.
Has helped me a few times now
HMO said:Yeah, I tend to swerve explaining things verbally. I have more success if there's an opportunity to think about it for a while rather than being expected to think on the spot.
Yeah, I tend to swerve explaining things verbally. I have more success if there's an opportunity to think about it for a while rather than being expected to think on the spot.
I’m the same way, I can’t be put on the spot like that and I need time to process it all and I don’t get that and then the situation gets made worse and decisions get made because I need to think and process and I am once again feeling forced to make everyone else happy and no compromises whatsoever.
I find wearing visible Loop earplugs has a similar effect. People can’t help asking about them.
I wear my sunflower lanyard when I can to avoid the conversation of "oh, just so you know, I'm autistic", but I'm open to people asking questions if they ever want to.
I have the same issue.