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Does Anyone Else Always Say Sorry or Is It Just Me?

enflores3000

For years I have had this habit whenever I feel like I have done something wrong that I just say sorry no matter what it is. I have CPTSD as I have dealt with trauma since my childhood, my father was physically abusive to my mother and my brother is physically and mentally handicapped because of it, my father blames me to this day for my brother, when I was 5 I was SAed by my 13 year old neighbor and he told my grandmother that it was my idea and she whipped me for it severely and my first relationship I was domestically abused, r*ped and blamed for it. All my life my mother used my diagnosis against me to invalidate my feelings whenever I was upset and constantly pushed me into sensory overloads and would always tell me that I don’t understand social “norms” and that I needed to accept things that were hurting me. I put all this out here because I know that a lot of this plays a role in why I constantly apologize for things but I have wondered if other Autistics who haven’t been through what I have have a habitual habit of apologizing for things or is it just me?

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  • I’m so sorry for what you went through and I can relate to a lot from what you described. Shame and guilt is my daily basis, I was abused since childhood and I was always wrong either not good enough or too much sensitive, I was told that my brain is not functioning properly, that I’m socially disabled (which is actually true, but in that case it was in a malicious way to hurt me). This is how many of us grow up with low self esteem and feel guilty and often apologize. In my case I often ask my husband if he is angry at me, even for things that have nothing to do with my actions or decisions. I’m gonna talk to a therapist about it, soon I have my appointment. Do you have any therapy? 

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  • I’m so sorry for what you went through and I can relate to a lot from what you described. Shame and guilt is my daily basis, I was abused since childhood and I was always wrong either not good enough or too much sensitive, I was told that my brain is not functioning properly, that I’m socially disabled (which is actually true, but in that case it was in a malicious way to hurt me). This is how many of us grow up with low self esteem and feel guilty and often apologize. In my case I often ask my husband if he is angry at me, even for things that have nothing to do with my actions or decisions. I’m gonna talk to a therapist about it, soon I have my appointment. Do you have any therapy? 

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  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    Atm, no, I don’t have a therapist. But it’s good to know that I am not the only one who feels like I do and has gone through abuse like what my mother did. Yeah my self esteem is very low.