Fear of smiling when saying sorry

Something else to add, not knowing when to stop teasing is a known feature of Asperger's, and even if you have a genuine comment to make, the potential exists to laugh out loud at the wrong moment, even if you aren't doing it deliberately.  Sometimes I get the urge to laugh at something that seems ludicrous (for reasons other than the average person might find ludicrous).  Perhaps, even though you see you have said or done something to upset someone, you feel bad, you have a sort of conflicting desire to smile because it seems somehow absurd that people get offended and need such platitudes.  I may not have explained it well, but the truth could be somewhere in there.  Sometimes I find the whole world ludicrous.  I think my brain has a gear it switches into when everything gets too much sometimes and I just laugh when it might not make sense to others.

In fact, I had a phone conversation this morning, over a very serious matter, the other person was giving me an example of something that happened to someone she knew and I guffawed loudly when she told me.  She replied "it seems funny but it's terrible" or something like that.  She wasn't offended (that I could tell) but sometimes it's like I make light of something (which I do also think is tied in with the low empathy because my first instinct is not to feel what the other person might be feeling, but to react to the overall picture).

Something else to add, not knowing when to stop teasing is a known feature of Asperger's, and even if you have a genuine comment to make, the potential exists to laugh out loud at the wrong moment, even if you aren't doing it deliberately.  Sometimes I get the urge to laugh at something that seems ludicrous (for reasons other than the average person might find ludicrous).  Perhaps, even though you see you have said or done something to upset someone, you feel bad, you have a sort of conflicting desire to smile because it seems somehow absurd that people get offended and need such platitudes.  I may not have explained it well, but the truth could be somewhere in there.  Sometimes I find the whole world ludicrous.  I think my brain has a gear it switches into when everything gets too much sometimes and I just laugh when it might not make sense to others.

In fact, I had a phone conversation this morning, over a very serious matter, the other person was giving me an example of something that happened to someone she knew and I guffawed loudly when she told me.  She replied "it seems funny but it's terrible" or something like that.  She wasn't offended (that I could tell) but sometimes it's like I make light of something (which I do also think is tied in with the low empathy because my first instinct is not to feel what the other person might be feeling, but to react to the overall picture).