Hi,
So I was only officially diagnosed with Autism 3 weeks ago and I'm 34. In all honesty, I don't know how I feel about it all. I guess I knew that would be the diagnosis so it didn't come as a surprise but I still don't know how I actually feel about it.... I kind of think 'it is what it is'. My Mum has said she guessed I may have autism when I was young but no doctors, school, etc picked it up.
But the reason I started this discussion is because earlier this evening my mum told me, when I asked, that yes she'd told her closest friends about my autism diagnosis. Only thing is a few of her closest friends happen to be the mums of my friends. So there's a good chance those friends have now told their daughters/sons (my friends) about my diagnosis. My mum also told me and the rest of the family that she'd had a bad health diagnosis herself and needs surgery for it soon. And I feel like that news hasn't really set in yet - my siblings, Nan and uncle were in tears but I just don't feel anything really yet.
But what I do feel, is annoyed. Because if I went to my friend (who I'm seeing tomorrow) and told her about my mum's diagnosis and then she went home and told her mum (my mum's friend) before my mum had had a chance to tell her friend herself, she would be sooo angry and upset about it. And yet my mum has told her friends about my autism diagnosis, not thinking 'oh they might well tell their daughters/sons who are my daughter's friends' - I just feel like my autism diagnosis is my news to tell my friends if I wish to. And it just angers me that my mum has openly discussed my diagnosis with her friends and yet she tells me not to discuss her diagnosis with my friends. And I tried to bring this point up with my mum a couple of times and each time she's said 'I'm not having this discussion'. I know I should be worrying and reacting to my mum's news at the moment and not thinking about myself. but I just can't help feeling sooo annoyed about this.
Am I being unfair about this?