Published on 12, July, 2020
I asked this question elsewhere else recently but I thought I’d ask here too as I’m curious.
I got into a bit of an argument with a friend recently due to a misunderstanding between ourselves. We were talking about something personal and then a couple of days later she messaged me to say that I made her feel bad because I apparently got “defensive” as we were talking.
I was really confused by this because I didn’t think I *was* being defensive (still don’t) but obviously that’s how I came across to her. Anyway, it got me wondering if this was an autistic thing and apparently it is. I read a blog post from an autistic woman saying how our facial expressions and tone of voice can be mismatched with our real feelings, so in a NT orientated world we are often misunderstood based on these things alone. It would explain why so many autistic get accused of being “rude” when they aren’t.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this?
Yes all the time. I sound defensive, I look defensive...
Whaaas?? I will never understand the thinking of the neurotypical brain. They are a baffling mystery and one I doubt I will ever understand.
DeputySprinkles said: I will never understand the thinking of the neurotypical brain. They are a baffling mystery and one I doubt I will ever understand.
Me too. I have been with my partner for 25-27 years now and I still don’t get her. I have recently asked her to give me a heads up if she is in a grumpy or bad mood. Equally I told her not to assume I’m sad all the time and not to ask why I look unhappy. I hope we can stick to this as it’s proving quite successful….. just need to work on the being given notice when things have been planned without me knowing.