Hi - would really like some advice please. I'm having a miserable day. I'm 44 & have recently had an assessment for ASD after trying to ignore the problem for many years. My partner is NT, very supportive and long-suffering but when I have meltdowns (which are getting more frequent & always at home, so he cops for all the flak) like I did today, we end up not speaking for a few days.
I know I'm over-dependent on him and that he feels really hurt and distressed when I act like this. I'm trying to use mindfulness techniques to get in touch and deal with my feelings but not surprisingly am finding this a challenge. He's very sensitive to my body language and speech tone.
My question is, can anyone confirm that this is not just ASD, that my personality and learnt behaviour is behind some of this? I can understand that my social skills are limited, as I have no friends separate to my life with him, but I don't want to use my ASD as a cop-out for all my difficulties. Also, can anyone offer any tips on making an apology that is genuine, because I can't distinguish when it's not authentic but he can.
Sorry if this is a bit rambling - I just need to get it off my chest. Thanks for reading. Any comments appreciated.
