What is a shutdown

Hi I’m really curious want to know what a shutdown is? I know what a meltdown is and being on the spectrum myself I’ve have had many but I have not even encountered a shutdown. My boyfriend who is also on the spectrum has them but their quiet rare. I have tried many ways to get him to snap out of the one he is currently facing but no luck instead it makes him more irritated. Basically what is a shutdown? How long do they last? And is there a way to get a person to can’t think of a less harsh phrase here but to snap out of it? 

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  • I’m most probably older, I rarely have meltdowns, they would have been treated as bad behaviour when I was younger. 
    I do have shutdowns, for me it is becoming non verbal, needing time alone and going into a very deep state of thought plus self loathing.
    I wouldn’t ask a person having a meltdown to ‘ snap out of it’, it’s the same with a shutdown. A relationship is often learning from each other and sometimes tying to explain how things affect you. It’s also just giving the other person space when it’s needed.

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  • I’m most probably older, I rarely have meltdowns, they would have been treated as bad behaviour when I was younger. 
    I do have shutdowns, for me it is becoming non verbal, needing time alone and going into a very deep state of thought plus self loathing.
    I wouldn’t ask a person having a meltdown to ‘ snap out of it’, it’s the same with a shutdown. A relationship is often learning from each other and sometimes tying to explain how things affect you. It’s also just giving the other person space when it’s needed.

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