Family Resistant to Late Diagnosis

Hi there 

I have posted on this before so apologies if any of you have heard this. So in short I am undiagnosed and so is my son who is 8. I’m 49. We are going through the process of an assessment for him and he sees a therapist who specialises in autism. Even though my wife brought up about me possibly being autistic she refuses to talk about it. She isn’t a very empathetic person tbh and I’m the complete opposite.I am having exactly the same issue, now I know she seems to notice my traits and is completely against them. Maybe I’m showing them more without realising or maybe she just doesn’t accept it but it’s causing massive problems for me atm. Agree with the others that they need to be educated, it has helped me to realise that it’s ok to be myself a little more. Only thing is how do you get family members to do that when they resist?

If I figure that out I will post on here. I’m sorry to hear that this is happening to you and feel your frustration.

good luck

Hi
I am 50 also.
My Mum is just the same.
Your Family may not be " shunning " you, they may just not be able to relate to your condition.
Offering and assisting with advice is difficult when People have no experience.
Those People need educating.
Try not to take it Personally,am sure they care about you.

I dont have any ideas other than maybe they need to hve better education on autism. They probably think meltdowns are trying to be dramatic but if they learn more about what autism is, what things are challenging, hopfully they would learn to be more understanding.

They may also be having a hard time comming to terms with your diagnosis. To them, you survived just fine to 50, so they might think that you couldnt have autism, or that its not going to be beneficial in any way and that you are just making excuses for your behaviors