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tigerlily

Hi

I'm completely new to this and need some advice - basically people just don't get me. I am an adult and was diagnosed with autism and dyspraxia as an adult as I returned to university.

There is a lot of support out there it appears for families but my family has given up on me and the 'family' I have are my friends (well one sided friendship because I can't meet them at the same level). They get very frustrated with me and say they're trying to 'teach' me how to be in their world and respond the way they expect me to be. For example I was with a friend yesterday and she asked me if I am free on Wednesday and did I want to go to her house. I answered Yes I am free, yes I wanted to go to her house. What is wrong with my answer because she blew up and told me 'wrong answer' and get really angry. 

It is so frustrating and I don't know what to do. Or how to help them.

Any advice?

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  • I don't understand what was wrong with your answer either.   I have AS and maybe I have missed something, but it's a perfectly straightforward question with a perfectly straightforward answer.

    I mean, if she was saying it in a way as if she didn't really mean it, expecting you to pick up on that, I don't get it because why ask at all, it's not as if you were expecting her to ask you that, so it doesn't make sense.

    She doesn't sound much of a friend if she can treat you like that TBH.

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  • I don't understand what was wrong with your answer either.   I have AS and maybe I have missed something, but it's a perfectly straightforward question with a perfectly straightforward answer.

    I mean, if she was saying it in a way as if she didn't really mean it, expecting you to pick up on that, I don't get it because why ask at all, it's not as if you were expecting her to ask you that, so it doesn't make sense.

    She doesn't sound much of a friend if she can treat you like that TBH.

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