Rules and telling lies

Dream said:

I know someone who lies to get what they want and it really makes me angry. It's not fair, not right and shouldn't happen. It's all I can think about.

Looki at this from a society point of view - where is the book of rules that say people cannot lie? Is there a law, a society book of appropriate conduct or is this just something you have come to accept is a "thing".

Politicians of all parties lie through their teeth all the time, advertising lies constantly about the effect of their products, people you meet socially are likely to lie and say things like "you look great" when you look like rubbish, a boy may tell a girl he loves her when he is just not that into her but it makes her feel better, parents may tell a terminally ill child "it will be ok" etc etc.

The point is lies are a constant part of our society so stop caring so much about them. We are not the arbiters of justice in society so don't take on the stress and anger over it.

When people lie it tends to end up being found and it is down to the injured party to decide what to do about it.

If there is a defined rule broken (eg lying at work to get someone else blamed for a mistake) then you have a path to raise that with the authorities, but be aware that it will probably reflect badly on you as a "snitch". It will depend on the severity of the issue but for non serious stuff it is normally best to pretend you didn't even see it in my experience.

The whole issue about being angry because the rules are not being followed is a common autistic viewpoint so my approach is to realise that the rule book does not exist for the vast majority of these, so there cannot be rules to be broken if they don't exist in the first place.

Dream said:

I know someone who lies to get what they want and it really makes me angry. It's not fair, not right and shouldn't happen. It's all I can think about.

Looki at this from a society point of view - where is the book of rules that say people cannot lie? Is there a law, a society book of appropriate conduct or is this just something you have come to accept is a "thing".

Politicians of all parties lie through their teeth all the time, advertising lies constantly about the effect of their products, people you meet socially are likely to lie and say things like "you look great" when you look like rubbish, a boy may tell a girl he loves her when he is just not that into her but it makes her feel better, parents may tell a terminally ill child "it will be ok" etc etc.

The point is lies are a constant part of our society so stop caring so much about them. We are not the arbiters of justice in society so don't take on the stress and anger over it.

When people lie it tends to end up being found and it is down to the injured party to decide what to do about it.

If there is a defined rule broken (eg lying at work to get someone else blamed for a mistake) then you have a path to raise that with the authorities, but be aware that it will probably reflect badly on you as a "snitch". It will depend on the severity of the issue but for non serious stuff it is normally best to pretend you didn't even see it in my experience.

The whole issue about being angry because the rules are not being followed is a common autistic viewpoint so my approach is to realise that the rule book does not exist for the vast majority of these, so there cannot be rules to be broken if they don't exist in the first place.