I decided to word my subject line that way because maybe I don't understand either but I deserve for loved one to try to "get" me. If both sides tried then I think we'd be ok.
That's basically it. I am just tired of being told that I am a problem. I think they see that I have a higher capacity and drive to attempt to figure the scenario out and they are just forcing everything to go their way by belittling me.
My kids are really the only two people who are taking the time to listen and learn right now. I am making a lot of internal changes and they are hearing me with my updated boundaries and needs. Everyone else is really hurting my feelings. That's not hyperbole. I mean everyone close to me. It's extra tough when it's from all angles and I don't really ever feel like I'm getting a break.