Published on 12, July, 2020
This is quite embarrassing to write but I'm going to do it anyway. Okay - this might just be a 'me' thing - if that's the case please just ignore this post but:
Why is getting washed and/or clean so hard?
I don't know if it is an autistic thing but getting in the shower/changing clothes/changing bedding and doing laundry is so hard for me. I am an independent adult I should be able to function better. :(
I just had a shower and washed my hair for the first time in X weeks (too ashamed to say). I feel better now and I smell nice, so why don't I manage to do it more often?
I live alone and rarely go out or see people, so my lack of washing isn't bothering anyone. I wanted to ask my weekly cleaner to help me change my sheets but I am too ashamed for her to see the state of my bed so its something I will have to tackle alone.
Anyway, if anyone can relate please comment below, or if you just want to tell me I'm being a big baby that's also fine.
Apart from autistic inertia, I wonder if low self worth plays its part. Particularly when anxiety is peaking.
Yes and I think some of it is also demand. Even when we want to!
That sounds ridiculous - do you mean that perhaps some people say "you can't do something when you want to, and can do, that something?!
Oh, surely, that isn't a "thing"? ......But, I suppose that if it WERE to be a "thing", something like 'Pathological Demand Avoidance' would be a good label for it. Oh, the irony.
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Thats exactly what i mean! Who'd have thunk it.
After willingly volunteering to go in the bathroom first yesterday, I then spent the next 20 minutes (un)intentionally avoiding doing this by doing other things. I wasn't aware until it was pointed out.