Authority/Confontation Issues

I cannot stand being ordered about, officiousness snd so on. Just my temperemtbsll rounf I suppose

Yep.  If I am pushed ... I resist.

.....but go figure this.....If I want to do something, I often resist?!

I follow the rules and the ways but half the time my brain can't compute it because it seems wrong, illogical and utter nonsense lol but I conform because I don't want to cause any drama but if put in the spotlight I'll stand my ground because otherwise then people will just walk all over me.

I was a follower of rules, as a boy. But now developed a harder stance. Nothing to do with hormones, rather experience.

hey Maggie, I'm exactly the same. it's a real problem, currently I'm stuck in a sittuation where I'm going to have to move soon(ish) so I won't be able to keep working where I am (I'm moving off the island I've lived on my entire life and where I work) and it took me so long to tell my boss, because I always find talking to people in authority difficult because I find them really intimmidating, and I don;t know why.

but i'm finding it really difficult to ask for days off to go and look at new places to work because I don't want to have to ask for things from my boss. and everyone is just telling me to take all this time off because I've been working there for like 6 years and am yet to get minnimum wage and I've been 'self employed' this entire time so I never got payed time off or payed sick days and have been having to pay my own tax, because it's a better deal for the boss and apparently that's all I care about.

Peter said:

I have a real problem with anyone insisting that things being done in a certain way or that certain rules are adhered to when I view those rules and procedures as illogical.

That is a very autistic trait and one I share.

We typically have strong moral compasses and when we see rules that are stupid or plain wrong to us then we react to those.

This has gotten me into trouble on more than a few occasions mind you.

The exact opposite. I have a real problem with anyone insisting that things being done in a certain way or that certain rules are adhered to when I view those rules and procedures as illogical. That doesn’t mean I don’t do it but I’m sure as hell not going to be happy about it. And in all probability someone’s going to get an earful over it.

ah i think im opposite...

i mean i try and please authority and try and stay on the right side of the law and do everything by the books, but i still end up against authority figures because despite doing everything to the letter of the law the authority figures always end up taking offence at you in some way and making you out as still unlawful.... sometimes you cannot please authority and they are there to be overly authoritive to the point you cant please them... when i get into a position where i have done everything they want and yet they are still not pleased i think i reverse my behaviour and become the opposite and resist and do everything they dont want, thus they first will have me perfect doing anything they want, obedient and loyal, but their actions and ignorance then flips me to being super rebel and their worst nightmare.... i guess logic of the story with me is they should be pleased with people doing what they want and any ungreatful attitude and ignorance of ones obedience will make them lose that obedience.

as for bullies yeah i resist.... basically anything negative i full on resist...everyone has a chance to be cool with me until they personally miff me off.... i mean even a criminal dodgy bully type i could be friends with and get along with, but if they act up or do anything against me personally then they get nowhere with me lol then they usually will get offended as theyd likely have thought themselves above me and it often shows them up when a guy like me doesnt give them power when they play up.

ive always been a outcast pariah anyway so i never cared about consequence.... i mean with my boss though at work i had slightly more care but i dunno i get to a point even then i flip if they act up on me. so i even reported my boss and made big changes at work including getting his girlfriend fired too all because of him playing up against me lol

Maggie said:

Does anyone else have a hard time with authority? 

Thiis is not necessarily and autistic thing, but if it is because you believe the authority is wrong about something then it can be.

When I was younger (and to a degree now) I had a strong dislike of anyone or anything teling me what to do. I believe it is more related to testosterone than autism though.

The confrontational thing also strikes a bell - I'm quite likely to stand my ground  to a point as I know that if I lose my temper on someone it is likely to escalate to violence , and I fear my self control may not hold when that happens.

I suspect testosterone is another driver here as it is a real primal rage thing. Luckily it has not been let out of its cage for a very, very long time but I do everything I can to stop it getting to that point.

I understand anger is one of the emotions that autists are more easily able to get in touch with however so this may be an influencing factor as I have always had issues in connecting with my other emotions.