Published on 12, July, 2020
I'm the least assertive person you could possibly meet, and will probably only say no to something when I'm at breaking point.
I do believe that so much of my life would be different if I was able to put my foot down without fearing that the other person will physically attack me or something because I said no.
Same. If I said no, expressed unhappiness, or made the wrong facial expression as a child I would be threatened or hit. I still expect it to happen now.
I'm the same. It doesn't feel safe enough.
Even though the absolute worst that could happen is that someone is a bit unhappy but I wish I didn't put that over my comfort.
Once you learn that people can be unhappy with you and that's absolutely perfectly fine, it's quite liberating. Once you start testing the waters with it, it's even better!
I find this happening more and more as I get older. I don't know if its just a natural part of aging that you just care less if someone is upset with you.
That's true. I'm such a people pleaser though, it's little wonder that I find it so difficult.
I can sometimes say no, maybe to my parents if necessary, but outside of that there's no way unless it's a situation where it's very "open".
i.e. the other person has made it very clear that there's no pressure etc.