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What advice would you give to your younger self?

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This may be more appropriate for the older members, but younger ones may find it useful and may have some advice to give.

My really big one is I wish I was less of a 'people pleaser', less compliant.

I think I have been quite easily manipulated during my life and if I hadn't been, my life would have taken a different course.

I have finally learnt to say 'no' and am trying hard to 'please myself'.

What about you?

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  • i’d probably warn  myself that my friends are less loyal than I thought they were. That I can’t trust that things will work out in time just because they ought to. That I can’t trust the adults in my life to do the right thing by me not cause theyre  mean people but because they have different priorities and my best interest, to the extent that they even understood them properly, were not at the top of the list of priorities.

    I would remind myself that going on idealistic crusades is very good and noble, but that being young now is the opportunity to try new experiences and to take risks particularly since life will cut me more slack if taking risks ends up with me doing something considered delinquent and in appropriate. 

    I’d try to persuade myself to become financially independent from my parents earlier on. A part-time job maybe. that  University is an excellent opportunity and I should seriously aim for it. Aim to publish eaRly.

    id tell myself to be bolder with women, and less caught up in chasing ‘the one.’

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  • i’d probably warn  myself that my friends are less loyal than I thought they were. That I can’t trust that things will work out in time just because they ought to. That I can’t trust the adults in my life to do the right thing by me not cause theyre  mean people but because they have different priorities and my best interest, to the extent that they even understood them properly, were not at the top of the list of priorities.

    I would remind myself that going on idealistic crusades is very good and noble, but that being young now is the opportunity to try new experiences and to take risks particularly since life will cut me more slack if taking risks ends up with me doing something considered delinquent and in appropriate. 

    I’d try to persuade myself to become financially independent from my parents earlier on. A part-time job maybe. that  University is an excellent opportunity and I should seriously aim for it. Aim to publish eaRly.

    id tell myself to be bolder with women, and less caught up in chasing ‘the one.’

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