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When you get 1 or 2 people that treat you differently at work?

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Right, it's not in a rude way or anything, it's good their treating me like that and it isn't if that makes sense, I'm one of the lucky ones I feel that I even have a job with aspergers and OCD linked together with me. I am a apprentice their and dealing with administration and I'm 22, it's just that I know someone who also started roughly the same time as me, she isn't a apprentice though, but it's just one or 2 people in the workplace treat me differently like being in a really soft pitch tone of voice to me, it's like they treat me as if I am not my age like I'm years younger! I do appreciate the way they support my disability and all that understanding that I can't understand what people mean and what they are saying easily but I don't want to be told like today to calm down, don't panick, don't run etc, I find that quite annoying because I wasn't panicking or anything, I just like to get the job done and I am always full of motivation when I'm doing my job cos I love it so much. I don't see that lady speaking to the other girl who's a simular age group as me, she's 23 but I notice the tone of speech is different like she gets treated as a adult. I know they are doing this to reassure me and keep my anxiety down, but it's really hard for me not to be quite annoyed with it sometimes.

Ever since I found out I have aspergers, I do understand that the way I understand things isn't as good as normal people, and I just find it hard to understand mostly everything else that I don't know about, like when my colleuges talk about events like bike rides, my brain just gets lost cos I don't know what to say back as I couldn't take in all the information. It's just difficult for me to fit in and understand things if they are not explained as clearly and slowly as possible.

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  • There are situations in the workplace you do need to watch for and one is that if you act differently, your colleagues will spend an unusually large amount of time trying to understand it.

    This is partly displacement activity - fiilling in as much time as possible with something that isn't what you are paid to do.

    I was for many years fairly dead pan and non-reactive. This seems to be down to a lack of engagement in what's going on around me - sort of brain in ticking over mode. I remember someone coming into the office in which I worked with a ridiculous wig on and carrying on a conversation with me. I just answered questions as best I could. Apparently they couldn't believe that I had shown no sign of puzzlement or discomforture, or amusement - no change in facial expression.

    But I've had people spend hours in lengthy pointless conversations trying to get a response.

    Its something NTs do apparently. It becomes a worry if its used to undermine or bully you, but if its just them being puzzled because THEY THINK you're odd (NTs are the odd ones!), you just have to take it as part of working life.

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  • There are situations in the workplace you do need to watch for and one is that if you act differently, your colleagues will spend an unusually large amount of time trying to understand it.

    This is partly displacement activity - fiilling in as much time as possible with something that isn't what you are paid to do.

    I was for many years fairly dead pan and non-reactive. This seems to be down to a lack of engagement in what's going on around me - sort of brain in ticking over mode. I remember someone coming into the office in which I worked with a ridiculous wig on and carrying on a conversation with me. I just answered questions as best I could. Apparently they couldn't believe that I had shown no sign of puzzlement or discomforture, or amusement - no change in facial expression.

    But I've had people spend hours in lengthy pointless conversations trying to get a response.

    Its something NTs do apparently. It becomes a worry if its used to undermine or bully you, but if its just them being puzzled because THEY THINK you're odd (NTs are the odd ones!), you just have to take it as part of working life.

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