Pronouns Understanding

Hello Everyone

I am not sure if I am venting out or in SERIOUS need of advice!

Here in the twenty-first century, we are lucky to be a community that is constantly connected (here aren't we all?:))  But for the last few years, people have started to use pronouns to present themselves, in the gender that they please. And I thought: "That's great! People get to choose what they want, be open to a community, not be offended, feel free, and perhaps worst cases not feel accepted but at the very least like themselves! What could go wrong?" I thought 

Until my family came along...

Do you know in "An Inspector Calls"? "We tend to have a great influence on the youngest generation"? Or something close to that. That's basically how I feel.

My family, parents and siblings, all agree that pronouns are dangerous. And with the arguments that they bring it's difficult not to agree. The psychological effect on the youngest, the dangers to females, the censorship of some words, the audacity that some Woke (not all, I know please, it's example) believe that white people owe to the black, Asians and other races for generations of discrimination and must (you guess) pay to be repented for their ancestors' sins. (*shakes head uncomfortably) That sounds like a cult at this point. Or if we have to go back on the subject: the pressure that is put at work to create a "diversity-free" environment actually closes other people to say: "No, I don't agree." Because if you do: You're racist! So there is no choice!

When you hear that, every day, every time your sibling calls and describes how the choice of a little girl deciding to use the pronouns "cat", and so the little girl, believes that she is a cat! Of course, it's worrying, but at the same time, maybe my sibling is making a bit too much of a deal out of this than it should be!

I tried to tell them: "Hey! Can we talk about something else?" because, in all honesty, yes, there are things I agree with them, like the censorship of words, but their constant opinion is destroying my ability to create my own opinion about this whole mess! But no: they must vent out because their daily obligation is driving them crazy! I hate it! Some of you may recognise me because I expressed my discontent about pronouns and the psychological danger I expressed, but to be very honest I DON'T KNOW! This is driving me crazy, I can't talk to them without them seeing positively this whole thing! That it's people's choices and that things can be resolved if we are all careful! I know this is an autistic reserved account... but... PLEASE help me understand in a non-bias way.

(And on that note, I have NO issue with my gender identity!)

Parents
  • As Glitter says, we all use pronouns all the time. They're just a part of how language works.

    When someone changes the pronouns they use, or starts to use 'they' (or a neopronoun like ze or xe) instead of 'he' or 'she' it's no different to changing their name in terms of the expectations for others. They're just asking to be addressed politely in the way that they feel is correct, just like someone who goes by a nickname or changed their surname and title when they got married.

    It's not as big of a deal as many people make it out to be- at least, it shouldn't be. The respectful thing to do is to use the form of address that is correct for that individual.

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  • As Glitter says, we all use pronouns all the time. They're just a part of how language works.

    When someone changes the pronouns they use, or starts to use 'they' (or a neopronoun like ze or xe) instead of 'he' or 'she' it's no different to changing their name in terms of the expectations for others. They're just asking to be addressed politely in the way that they feel is correct, just like someone who goes by a nickname or changed their surname and title when they got married.

    It's not as big of a deal as many people make it out to be- at least, it shouldn't be. The respectful thing to do is to use the form of address that is correct for that individual.

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