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Your Report of the Start of the Week about this girl

John

Hello,

I have left alone this girl that has been a nightmare to me. Thanks for all of your advice.

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* Monday

She texted me and tried to make a conversation with me to say hello to me and called me on WhatsApp a 4 times. She then blocked me after she texted me once again. I ignored her because I said  'I will leave you alone' the previous night before to her. She wanted to do to call me on WhatsApp again.

* Tuesday

She texted me and called me on WhatsApp 4 times to do a group call. I ignored her and she's very persistent and relentless. Now apparently she's doing what she did to me to another friend now.

 Thanks for all of your advice on this forum. I really appreciate it

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  • I’m not sure that ghosting someone who requested more space not a total cutting off is the best way to handle this. Wouldn’t it be better to build a bridge and find a compromise? Being abruptly cut off from someone we’ve come to care about is one of the most traumatising things we can go through. I’m still grappling with it after two and a half years and it causes me regular distress when I can no longer sustain the energy to distract myself from it. Unless you’re certain that you were treated abusively, not just confusingly, I’d urge you to be less punitive here. But maybe I’m not objective enough. Someone else might think that what you’ve done is healthy. 

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  • I’m not sure that ghosting someone who requested more space not a total cutting off is the best way to handle this. Wouldn’t it be better to build a bridge and find a compromise? Being abruptly cut off from someone we’ve come to care about is one of the most traumatising things we can go through. I’m still grappling with it after two and a half years and it causes me regular distress when I can no longer sustain the energy to distract myself from it. Unless you’re certain that you were treated abusively, not just confusingly, I’d urge you to be less punitive here. But maybe I’m not objective enough. Someone else might think that what you’ve done is healthy. 

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